Arguing against your limitations

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One of the most interesting conversations at PodCamp Boston 4 was on the lawn, a discussion about race, gender, and social media. Lots of different viewpoints, from a belief in a glass ceiling in social media to an equally strong belief in the democratization of media and the power of us all to break out and succeed.

If you’ve known me for a while, you know squarely where I stand. I’m nearly antisocial on the entire topic of self-imposed limitations.

“Argue for your limitations, and sure enough they’re yours.” – Richard Bach

If you believe there’s a glass ceiling, there is.

If you believe there’s someone holding you down, you will act as though there is.

If you believe that life is unfair and that you’ll never succeed, you won’t. I guarantee it, because whatever success you have you’ll subconsciously sabotage anyway.

I fundamentally believe in two tenets: first, you are statistically more likely to succeed if you’re awesome, and second, if you’re not swimming the blue ocean, you’re dead meat. Let’s tackle these in reverse.

Blue ocean strategy is a popular marketing concept that’s so obvious, it’s amazing someone had to write a book about it. Red oceans – oceans filled with blood and sharks – are where idiots try to do business. They see a crowded space and try to jump in the crowd, yell louder, cut prices lower, claim unfair competition, and generally get eaten by the bigger sharks. Red ocean strategy is opening a fourth pizza shop in a strip mall. The only ones who win in red ocean strategy are the biggest, baddest sharks.

Blue ocean strategy says swim where the oceans are clear, blue, and non-competitive. There are niches for everything, and a decent number of them are profitable. This is where you do business, because it’s much easier being profitable when you have no competition.

The insurance against competition is the second part – being awesome. When I say that what matters isn’t between your legs but between your ears, I’m not being snarky. If you have awesome on your side, race, gender, religion – none of it matters. People want awesome. People want to buy from awesome, and will pay a price premium for awesome.

The real problem, the problem we’re too often too polite to say, is that most of the time, we’re not awesome. Most of the time, what we have to sell or offer actually sucks. Believe me, I sell student loans. I know what it’s like to market a product that completely sucks. Thus, we have to gussy up our total suckage in the trappings of awesome in the hopes of fooling the less clever. “Ooh, this doorknob doesn’t actually work but it has a Facebook fan page!”

If you believe your race, gender, or other defining demographic factor is a limitation in your efforts, then that means one of two things: you’re either swimming in bloody red ocean, in which case you’re an idiot (regardless of gender, race, etc.) for not moving to clear waters, or the product, service, or idea you have sucks. Sorry. There’s no neat and kind way to say that.

Barack Obama didn’t become President of the United States by whining that the white man was holding him down. He made his own game, leveraged all the technology like no one else ever had before, and swam the blue ocean to 1600 Pennsylvania Avenue.

someone didn’t become lead organizer of the first and oldest PodCamp by demanding a chance because she’s got a vagina. She got there because she’s got a brain, got there by being awesome, by always delivering, by always getting done whatever needed to get done, and when the time came for Chris Brogan and I to turn over the reins, her record – irrespective of gender – spoke for itself.

Look carefully at all of the tools of social media. Has Twitter ever said, sorry, you’re black, you can’t have more than 1,000 followers because only white people should have lots of followers? Has Facebook ever said, sorry, you can’t create a fan page because you’re a woman and women shouldn’t have fans? When you download MySQL, PHP, or jQuery, do any of the tools say, sorry, you’re Muslim and MySQL only works for God-fearing Christians?

No.

All of the tools and technology are available to everyone. You have complete and total equality in terms of tools and raw opportunity to make your own game. How you use those tools, what results you create are only limited by your talents and your self imposed limitations.

You are more than your limitations. You are much better than you think, but you have to awaken that inside you. If you get out of your own way and shatter your limiting beliefs, you’ve won half the battle.

I’ll finish with this thought, a lyric from Jewel:

No longer lend your strength to that which you wish to be free from.

Every moment, every ounce of energy you spend on your limitations is time and energy you don’t have to spend being awesome, swimming your way through the blue ocean to success.

I wish you limitless quantities of awesome and blue waters, no matter what gender, race, or religion you are.


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60 responses to “Arguing against your limitations”

  1. Doesn't matter who I am Avatar
    Doesn't matter who I am

    You! Are rock awesome!

  2. Justin Kownacki Avatar

    We make our own limitations, or we buy into other people's labels of us. Getting past that is the key.

    Side note: in case you're wondering why you might have this problem in the first place, here are 5 Reasons You're Not Awesome:

    http://www.justinkownacki.com/2009/08/11/5-reas

  3. David Clark Avatar

    I really, really want to agree with you — and on most days I do. But, sure, anyone can download, learn, and even build great stuff in php, mysql, or jquery, but that does not mean that you will get equitably compensated for it.
    Though not impossible, it is still much easier (and can be done with much less competence) to “be the part” when you look the part.
    Curious: would you put disability in your last sentence?

  4. Christopher S. Penn Avatar

    Depends on the disability. Some disabilities are authentic limitations – if you are physically prohibited from being able to do something, then that does change what you can accomplish. Being black, white, Hispanic, Asian, male, female, Muslim, Jewish, Christian – these are surface factors that play very little role in achievement overall, especially in the digital space when you can't even tell with any level of reliability whether someone is what they say they are.

    Even disability doesn't have to be something that shuts you down. Ask Glenda Watson Hyatt. Go check her stuff out at http://www.doitmyselfblog.com

  5. saranicole Avatar

    Hi Chris,
    One of the most intriguing moments of PodCamp for me happened in my head. It was during the discussion you led on Sunday, when for the first time since I've known you, I thought, hey, Chris Penn's Asian-American. It was a strange moment because I realized your strength of identity completely overwhelms any racial lens I might have imposed on you otherwise. And that is what your post means to me – you are so incredible it never even occurred to me to judge based on race.

    Oh, and I'm a chick I spose. Lol what's between my legs again? Let me check …

  6. Christopher S. Penn Avatar

    Genetically, yeah, I'm Asian. In my head though? I'm just American.

  7. Diane DiResta Avatar

    Great piece, Chris. I couldn't agree more. Loved your session at podcamp.

  8. davevandewalle Avatar
    davevandewalle

    Chris,

    As usual, a great piece that weaves together a number of different points and does so really well.

    Being “awesome” is subjective, sure. But you don't have to be awesome at being awesome; you can simply be awesome at some niche that is unexplored, and be either the only one attached to it (category dominance = perceived awesomeness) OR be better than the others who haven't presented their capabilities as well as you can.

    Go get 'em!

  9. danieljohnsonjr Avatar

    We are more than our (self-imposed) limitations. Rise above them now. Amen, @cspenn!

  10. Guido Stein Avatar

    Going back to a podcamp 1 saying… everyone is a rock star…

  11. Nathan Burke Avatar

    Mr. Penn,
    Well said, my friend. Well said. I'm pretty sick of what @sarahwurrey was calling the “oppression olympics” whereby a game of one-upmanship (or one-downmanship, maybe) happens every time the issue of race, gender, etc. comes up in a conversation.

    Truth is, if we want to spend all of our time giving reasons why we aren't succeeding…why we aren't doing awesome, that's great. The people that ARE doing awesome will have less competition that way.

    One of my favorite movies is “American Movie” a documentary about a guy that wants nothing else but to make an independent horror movie. He has no real skill, no money, and his entire family doesn't believe in him. But he makes it happen. And one of my favorite quotes from it deals with excuses:

    “There's no excuses. No one has ever paid admission to see an excuse. No one has ever faced a black screen that says, 'Well, if we had these set of circumstances we would have shot this scene, so please forgive us and use your imagination.' I've been to the movies hundreds of times, that's never occurred.” – Mark Borchardt, American Movie

  12. Rakiesha Avatar

    I love it! Chris, you totally rock! Everything that you said at the outdoor session, and in this post, is so true and so awesome. The perceptions of barriers is what holds us back sometimes, especially in the digital realm where nothing is impossible. I've never heard of this idea of the blue vs. the red ocean. I like it though.

    Man, oh man, I am SO glad that I was at PodCamp! Ha ha!

  13. MarkYoshimotoNemcoff Avatar

    Really great post. Very succinct and to the point. You, my friend, are awesome.

  14. MarkYoshimotoNemcoff Avatar

    Really great post. Very succinct and to the point. You, my friend, are awesome.

  15. chelpixie Avatar

    I've always been too busy limiting myself for other reasons to attach it to being female.

    I've never seen being female as something holding me back. I'll admit some curiosity to what the deal is, because as much as “men don't get it”, I don't either.

    If you don't say, “I don't care what anyone thinks, I can do this, I don't need permission”, you'll never get past any limitations because you're putting those limitations on yourself.

    All I've known for the past 3 1/2 years is you can do this, it's about working hard to get where you want to be and facing your fears, once you do that you won't be limited in any way. And that from a man who is my closest friend.

    Stop talking about why you aren't succeeding and start working hard on what will help you climb that mountain or open that door.

  16. whitneyhoffman Avatar
    whitneyhoffman

    John Robison was at Podcamp. He has Asperger's Syndrome, yet he has had a remarkable life, and continues to do so, writing books, helping folks, helping researchers find out more about the disability. He doesn't let it limit him in any way.
    I understand I do not have the genetic gifts that make a life of professional basketball possible, being a 5 ft. 3 inch female, so instead, I use what i have to maximize my potential- and that'[s what we all have to do- play the cards we have, rather than wish we were dealt a new hand.

  17. patalexander Avatar
    patalexander

    This is an awesome post. I wish I had written it. I work with firms on defining and implementing new processes and so many firms and people are held back by the Red Ocean thoughts. I am so glad I found this post today. Thanks,

  18. BethDunn Avatar
    BethDunn

    Normally, I argue against this sort of thing, only because it obscures the very real systemic structures that do still exist that make it harder for women and minorities to succeed… but the key point here, I think, is that that statement holds if you restrict yourself to playing in the playground that they have set up. Their playground, their rules. True story: their rules were not designed to reward Awesome. Their rules were designed to reward other things, like Maintain Status Quo, in whatever way is most vital to their system. Where I have I seen this? Academia, politics, public school systems, the church (won't say which).

    But it's your point about the Blue Ocean that makes this a different argument altogether. I think that part of what we are doing here (take that how you will) is creating an alternate structure with alternate rules. The rules here (work from home, project-based work, asynchronous work) tend to obscure the attributes against which the rules on the old playground are rigged — gender, race, religion, all tend to take a bask seat to… Awesome. To results. To Getting It Done.

    This honestly isn't the case yet if you place yourself in the red ocean of many traditional corporate settings. So let's not. I agree. Let's continue to make it so that Awesome is center-stage. But let's not fool ourselves that this has always been the case, or that systemic structures and processes don't exist that make this hard elsewhere.

    The key is the blue ocean concept. The key is to go your own way, chart your own course, and refuse to play by the rules that might disadvantage you, because they are to nobody's benefit — not even the people who made them.

  19. Christopher S. Penn Avatar

    Not only is the deck stacked against women and minorities in the old rules and red ocean, but it's stacked against just about everyone. The people who prosper in the red ocean of old rules are Extremely Wealthy Old White Men, by and large, which is about as exclusive as you can get.

    Old, young, black, white, man, woman – unless you're in that club, you're fighting the sharks, so swim elsewhere. That's the beauty of new media – disruption means new waters to explore entirely, while the old sharks wonder where all the food is going.

    Don't play by anyone else's rules if you can avoid it.

  20. David Clark Avatar

    In my experience, the only “authentic disability” is that perceived limitations of others. Sure, Glenda does some fantastic stuff – but it is as a sole proprietorship whose specialty is accessibility.
    Personally, I strive to be a developer with a disability and not a disabled programmer. Though I have extensive (and personal) accessibility expertise, I am also a damn good developer. No matter how strong one's resume is (and mine is strong) it is excruciatingly difficult to get past the initial phone-screen with recruiter or hiring manager.

  21. Teresa Basich Avatar

    This post is friggin' ridiculous in the best way. Just the other day I was ripping into a couple of my best friends for constantly leaning on what they believe are limitations to keep them from being happy. I think maybe I'll just sent them a link to your post and call the conversation done.

    Really, this is a lesson that can be driven home enough. Thank you for writing so eloquently on how awesome we all can be when we stop making excuses and give ourselves the chance. 🙂

  22. Doesn't matter who I am Avatar
    Doesn't matter who I am

    You! Are rock awesome!

  23. Justin Kownacki Avatar

    We make our own limitations, or we buy into other people's labels of us. Getting past that is the key.

    Side note: in case you're wondering why you might have this problem in the first place, here are 5 Reasons You're Not Awesome:

    http://www.justinkownacki.com/2009/08/11/5-reas

  24. David Clark Avatar

    I really, really want to agree with you — and on most days I do. But, sure, anyone can download, learn, and even build great stuff in php, mysql, or jquery, but that does not mean that you will get equitably compensated for it.
    Though not impossible, it is still much easier (and can be done with much less competence) to “be the part” when you look the part.
    Curious: would you put disability in your last sentence?

  25. Christopher S. Penn Avatar

    Depends on the disability. Some disabilities are authentic limitations – if you are physically prohibited from being able to do something, then that does change what you can accomplish. Being black, white, Hispanic, Asian, male, female, Muslim, Jewish, Christian – these are surface factors that play very little role in achievement overall, especially in the digital space when you can't even tell with any level of reliability whether someone is what they say they are.

    Even disability doesn't have to be something that shuts you down. Ask Glenda Watson Hyatt. Go check her stuff out at http://www.doitmyselfblog.com

  26. saranicole Avatar

    Hi Chris,
    One of the most intriguing moments of PodCamp for me happened in my head. It was during the discussion you led on Sunday, when for the first time since I've known you, I thought, hey, Chris Penn's Asian-American. It was a strange moment because I realized your strength of identity completely overwhelms any racial lens I might have imposed on you otherwise. And that is what your post means to me – you are so incredible it never even occurred to me to judge based on race.

    Oh, and I'm a chick I spose. Lol what's between my legs again? Let me check …

  27. Christopher S. Penn Avatar

    Genetically, yeah, I'm Asian. In my head though? I'm just American.

  28. Guido Stein Avatar

    Going back to a podcamp 1 saying… everyone is a rock star…

  29. Diane DiResta Avatar

    Great piece, Chris. I couldn't agree more. Loved your session at podcamp.

  30. davevandewalle Avatar
    davevandewalle

    Chris,

    As usual, a great piece that weaves together a number of different points and does so really well.

    Being “awesome” is subjective, sure. But you don't have to be awesome at being awesome; you can simply be awesome at some niche that is unexplored, and be either the only one attached to it (category dominance = perceived awesomeness) OR be better than the others who haven't presented their capabilities as well as you can.

    Go get 'em!

  31. danieljohnsonjr Avatar

    We are more than our (self-imposed) limitations. Rise above them now. Amen, @cspenn!

  32. simone Avatar

    I think there's always room for one more competitor in any niche IF they are awesome. and the only way to be truly awesome over the long run is…. TO DO WHAT YOU LOVE!

  33. Nathan Burke Avatar

    Mr. Penn,
    Well said, my friend. Well said. I’m pretty sick of what @sarahwurrey was calling the “oppression olympics” whereby a game of one-upmanship (or one-downmanship, maybe) happens every time the issue of race, gender, etc. comes up in a conversation.

    Truth is, if we want to spend all of our time giving reasons why we aren’t succeeding…why we aren’t doing awesome, that’s great. The people that ARE doing awesome will have less competition that way.

    One of my favorite movies is “American Movie” a documentary about a guy that wants nothing else but to make an independent horror movie. He has no real skill, no money, and his entire family doesn’t believe in him. But he makes it happen. And one of my favorite quotes from it deals with excuses:

    “There’s no excuses. No one has ever paid admission to see an excuse. No one has ever faced a black screen that says, ‘Well, if we had these set of circumstances we would have shot this scene, so please forgive us and use your imagination.’ I’ve been to the movies hundreds of times, that’s never occurred.” – Mark Borchardt, American Movie

  34. Amber Naslund Avatar

    I am so in love with this post. I actually wrote some similar thoughts today, by total coincidence, so I’m going to link back here. Out of my head, please. But THANK you for your articulate assessment of this. It’s a topic that, by and large, bugs the shit out of me.

    A

  35. Rakiesha Avatar

    I love it! Chris, you totally rock! Everything that you said at the outdoor session, and in this post, is so true and so awesome. The perceptions of barriers is what holds us back sometimes, especially in the digital realm where nothing is impossible. I’ve never heard of this idea of the blue vs. the red ocean. I like it though.

    Man, oh man, I am SO glad that I was at PodCamp! Ha ha!

  36. Mark Yoshimoto Nemcoff Avatar
    Mark Yoshimoto Nemcoff

    Really great post. Very succinct and to the point. You, my friend, are awesome.

  37. Chel Wolverton Avatar

    I’ve always been too busy limiting myself for other reasons to attach it to being female.

    I’ve never seen being female as something holding me back. I’ll admit some curiosity to what the deal is, because as much as “men don’t get it”, I don’t either.

    If you don’t say, “I don’t care what anyone thinks, I can do this, I don’t need permission”, you’ll never get past any limitations because you’re putting those limitations on yourself.

    All I’ve known for the past 3 1/2 years is you can do this, it’s about working hard to get where you want to be and facing your fears, once you do that you won’t be limited in any way. And that from a man who is my closest friend.

    Stop talking about why you aren’t succeeding and start working hard on what will help you climb that mountain or open that door.

  38. whitneyhoffman Avatar

    John Robison was at Podcamp. He has Asperger’s Syndrome, yet he has had a remarkable life, and continues to do so, writing books, helping folks, helping researchers find out more about the disability. He doesn’t let it limit him in any way.
    I understand I do not have the genetic gifts that make a life of professional basketball possible, being a 5 ft. 3 inch female, so instead, I use what i have to maximize my potential- and that'[s what we all have to do- play the cards we have, rather than wish we were dealt a new hand.

  39. Pat Alexander Avatar

    This is an awesome post. I wish I had written it. I work with firms on defining and implementing new processes and so many firms and people are held back by the Red Ocean thoughts. I am so glad I found this post today. Thanks,

  40. Beth Dunn Avatar

    Normally, I argue against this sort of thing, only because it obscures the very real systemic structures that do still exist that make it harder for women and minorities to succeed… but the key point here, I think, is that that statement holds if you restrict yourself to playing in the playground that they have set up. Their playground, their rules. True story: their rules were not designed to reward Awesome. Their rules were designed to reward other things, like Maintain Status Quo, in whatever way is most vital to their system. Where I have I seen this? Academia, politics, public school systems, the church (won’t say which).

    But it’s your point about the Blue Ocean that makes this a different argument altogether. I think that part of what we are doing here (take that how you will) is creating an alternate structure with alternate rules. The rules here (work from home, project-based work, asynchronous work) tend to obscure the attributes against which the rules on the old playground are rigged — gender, race, religion, all tend to take a bask seat to… Awesome. To results. To Getting It Done.

    This honestly isn’t the case yet if you place yourself in the red ocean of many traditional corporate settings. So let’s not. I agree. Let’s continue to make it so that Awesome is center-stage. But let’s not fool ourselves that this has always been the case, or that systemic structures and processes don’t exist that make this hard elsewhere.

    The key is the blue ocean concept. The key is to go your own way, chart your own course, and refuse to play by the rules that might disadvantage you, because they are to nobody’s benefit — not even the people who made them.

  41. Christopher S. Penn Avatar

    Not only is the deck stacked against women and minorities in the old rules and red ocean, but it’s stacked against just about everyone. The people who prosper in the red ocean of old rules are Extremely Wealthy Old White Men, by and large, which is about as exclusive as you can get.

    Old, young, black, white, man, woman – unless you’re in that club, you’re fighting the sharks, so swim elsewhere. That’s the beauty of new media – disruption means new waters to explore entirely, while the old sharks wonder where all the food is going. Eventually the sharks in the old rules and red ocean will have nothing to eat except each other.

    Don’t play by anyone else’s rules if you can avoid it.

  42. David Clark Avatar

    In my experience, the only “authentic disability” is that perceived limitations of others. Sure, Glenda does some fantastic stuff – but it is as a sole proprietorship whose specialty is accessibility.
    Personally, I strive to be a developer with a disability and not a disabled programmer. Though I have extensive (and personal) accessibility expertise, I am also a damn good developer. No matter how strong one's resume is (and mine is strong) it is excruciatingly difficult to get past the initial phone-screen with recruiter or hiring manager.

  43. Teresa Basich Avatar

    This post is friggin' ridiculous in the best way. Just the other day I was ripping into a couple of my best friends for constantly leaning on what they believe are limitations to keep them from being happy. I think maybe I'll just sent them a link to your post and call the conversation done.

    Really, this is a lesson that can be driven home enough. Thank you for writing so eloquently on how awesome we all can be when we stop making excuses and give ourselves the chance. 🙂

  44. gradontripp Avatar

    “Sure, Glenda does some fantastic stuff – but it is as a sole proprietorship whose specialty is accessibility.”

    That's the blue ocean Christopher's talking about. Glenda picked a niche, worked her ass off and became the best at it.

    You're a damn good developer. What's stopping you from going solo in a niche that you can own? Nothing but your own perceived limitations.

    Get over 'em and rock the show.

  45. suzemuse Avatar

    Wow wow wow. I'm so glad that you didn't hold anything back here, Chris. Too often us bloggers are so fearful of offending or “rocking the boat” that we hold back on things that really need to be said out loud. Thank you for telling us like it is.

    Self-imposed limitations are nothing more than excuses we make up for being afraid. It's easy and a cop-out to say “I can't do this because I'm a __________.” We label ourselves and that gives us what we perceive to be a fine excuse, because Heaven forbid we should ever admit to being afraid!

    Conquering fear of the unknown, of failure, of success…that's the key to forgetting about limitations. And the best way to conquer fear – suck it up and do it anyway. I spend much of my time sucking it up and getting over myself. It's about the only way I know of to continue to move forward, to grow and to be successful.

    You, my friend, rock. 🙂

  46. joannedunham Avatar
    joannedunham

    Powerful article. Thanks.

  47. Jamie Pappas Avatar

    Amen! I stole your Bach quote, too 😉

  48. simone Avatar

    I think there's always room for one more competitor in any niche IF they are awesome. and the only way to be truly awesome over the long run is…. TO DO WHAT YOU LOVE!

  49. gradontripp Avatar

    “Sure, Glenda does some fantastic stuff – but it is as a sole proprietorship whose specialty is accessibility.”

    That's the blue ocean Christopher's talking about. Glenda picked a niche, worked her ass off and became the best at it.

    You're a damn good developer. What's stopping you from going solo in a niche that you can own? Nothing but your own perceived limitations.

    Get over 'em and rock the show.

  50. Susan Murphy Avatar

    Wow wow wow. I'm so glad that you didn't hold anything back here, Chris. Too often us bloggers are so fearful of offending or “rocking the boat” that we hold back on things that really need to be said out loud. Thank you for telling us like it is.

    Self-imposed limitations are nothing more than excuses we make up for being afraid. It's easy and a cop-out to say “I can't do this because I'm a __________.” We label ourselves and that gives us what we perceive to be a fine excuse, because Heaven forbid we should ever admit to being afraid!

    Conquering fear of the unknown, of failure, of success…that's the key to forgetting about limitations. And the best way to conquer fear – suck it up and do it anyway. I spend much of my time sucking it up and getting over myself. It's about the only way I know of to continue to move forward, to grow and to be successful.

    You, my friend, rock. 🙂

  51. joannedunham Avatar
    joannedunham

    Powerful article. Thanks.

  52. jlbraaten Avatar

    Yeah, Chris, you go! I remember back in school we read a book called the Pedagogy of the Oppressed. Basically, it said, if you're oppressed, only you can change that. Anything else is a bandaid or even counter productive.

    Your post today was simply great. If you're awesome and smart, good things will come. What's that say then? Have faith in yourself and do your homework. Anyone can be awesome and smart.

  53. Isabelle Lopez Avatar

    thanks for being THAT clear 🙂

  54. jlbraaten Avatar

    Yeah, Chris, you go! I remember back in school we read a book called the Pedagogy of the Oppressed. Basically, it said, if you're oppressed, only you can change that. Anything else is a bandaid or even counter productive.

    Your post today was simply great. If you're awesome and smart, good things will come. What's that say then? Have faith in yourself and do your homework. Anyone can be awesome and smart.

  55. Isabelle Lopez Avatar

    thanks for being THAT clear 🙂

  56. Jamie Favreau Avatar

    I have to agree. I am hosting my first EVER event and I am a rookie in the field to say the least. I am hoping I have a strong enough network which can sustain this event. But you have to fail to succeed and if you try which is what I am trying… This is the ONLY way to succeed.

    Journchat is a controversial topic which is going to make it a challenge. This is fine because we need to fail to succeed and to learn. If you don't try, you will never know. I am hoping #journchat LIVE Detroit http://bit.ly/GVO3k rocks out.

    You have to get over your fears, create something and just help make this world a better place. Even in Detroit something good can happen. We just need to be the difference.

  57. Jamie Favreau Avatar

    I have to agree. I am hosting my first EVER event and I am a rookie in the field to say the least. I am hoping I have a strong enough network which can sustain this event. But you have to fail to succeed and if you try which is what I am trying… This is the ONLY way to succeed.

    Journchat is a controversial topic which is going to make it a challenge. This is fine because we need to fail to succeed and to learn. If you don’t try, you will never know. I am hoping #journchat LIVE Detroit http://bit.ly/GVO3k rocks out.

    You have to get over your fears, create something and just help make this world a better place. Even in Detroit something good can happen. We just need to be the difference.

  58. Jamie Favreau Avatar

    I have to agree. I am hosting my first EVER event and I am a rookie in the field to say the least. I am hoping I have a strong enough network which can sustain this event. But you have to fail to succeed and if you try which is what I am trying… This is the ONLY way to succeed.

    Journchat is a controversial topic which is going to make it a challenge. This is fine because we need to fail to succeed and to learn. If you don't try, you will never know. I am hoping #journchat LIVE Detroit http://bit.ly/GVO3k rocks out.

    You have to get over your fears, create something and just help make this world a better place. Even in Detroit something good can happen. We just need to be the difference.

  59. Cristian Gonzales Avatar

    Terrific read. Thanks to Jack Ng (@jacoutofthenox on Twitter) for sending this my way.
    I agree that it’s important to not let what someone perceives to be their possible limitations (race, ethnicity, gender, sexuality, physical limiations, etc.) hold them back from getting out in the world and being “awesome”. After all, we’re all capable of greatness I feel, in little ways and big ways.

    However, to say that race, gender, etc. aren’t factors that influence the way people perceive you, or think of you, how you are raised, what kind of opportunities you have, etc. I think is a bit misleading to say the least. How can someone be “awesome” if an employer doesn’t give them a chance because of their race? How can someone be “awesome” if they are hounded by security when going shopping for groceries? How can someone we “awesome” if they are rejected from a promotion because of their gender? These are very real-life limitations that exist in the world.

    How can someone counter this? Fight for it of course. Be the best you can be. Believe in yourself and your abilities. Be your best “awesome”. Fair argument, and I agree. But it’s important to recognize that “awesome” can best be accomplished when you have an environment that is open to your ideas and who you are, no matter how you look, what color your skin is, what gender you identify with, and what you may (or may not) have between your legs. However, the “real world” doesn’t work like that.

    I’ve been lucky in that my parents have always raised me to believe in myself no matter what. However, I’ve also experienced what it is to be shunned because of who you are. Luckily, I have fought against it and have accomplished a lot of success in my life nonetheless. My parents taught me to always persevere, no matter what. But not everyone on this planet has parents and a support system that encourages such a mindset. Not everyone has opportunities that others have. Not everyone has the ability to fight for themselves, and believe in themselves because the world has been incredibly unkind to them.

    Sure, be “awesome”—but if someone has consistently been told by the world that they’re not, it’s tough to rise above that. Not everyone has the capabilties to truly find out just how “awesome” they can truly be.

    Just my two cents.

  60. RalfLippold Avatar

    Awesome words and so true!

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