Christopher S. Penn – Marketing AI Keynote Speaker

Author: Christopher S Penn

What your dinner can teach you about marketing methods
Salty.
Sour.
Sweet.
Bitter.
Flavorful.

What’s similar about all of these?

They’re all powerful tastes we are biologically wired to respond to. We love foods with these different flavors. A seared steak with cracked peppercorns and salt. A warm apple pie with vanilla ice cream on the side. A plate of buttery salmon sushi with wasabi on the side. Whatever the food, whatever the cuisine, there’s something that makes you happy.

Now ask yourself this: when was the last time you put a spoonful of salt in your mouth? When was the last time you ate straight sugar? When was the last time you served your dinner guests a small bowl of MSG and nothing else? I’d wager never, certainly not for dining purposes unless you wanted to make sure those guests never came by the house again. We don’t like pure flavors very much. Flavors need to intermingle, flavors need the complexities of foods that have lots of secondary and subtle interactions.

So why, in the world of marketing, do we pursue purity so much? “We need an SEO strategy!” “We are going to market just with social media, it’s the future!” “We don’t advertise anywhere except pay per click!” Why do we insist on pure flavors when the customer we work with every day enjoy and demand complex meals of content, interaction, engagement, brand, and persuasion?

Part of the answer lies in metrics. In our quest to measure everything, the faster we can get to pure flavors, the faster and easier we can get to measuring our work. If you served nothing but a bowl of salt to dinner guests, it would be trivial to measure how much sodium was in the meal, doubly so after everyone left without eating. Measuring how much sodium is in a Thanksgiving dinner is much more difficult, isn’t it? Yet few would argue that a delicious full dinner is more satisfying than a bowl of salt.

Just as we don’t serve pure flavors at a meal, neither should we serve our customers and prospective customers with an insistence on marketing purity. Measure what you can, sure, but serve them with the best and most practical integrated marketing strategy that you can. Have content out there. Have social media interaction. Go to trade shows, speak at conferences, make interesting videos, do your SEO, send plenty of email, maybe even consider billboards or flyers if you’re a local business.

At the heart of this is acknowledging the complexity of an integrated marketing strategy and understanding that you can’t measure all of the interactions in a customer’s mind. A prospect might become a customer because they first met you at a trade show but a blog post reinforced to them that you knew your stuff. A prospect might become a customer because they first saw a YouTube video, then chatted with you, then read your eBook, then followed you on Twitter, and finally was convinced by an unsolicited testimonial of a friend of a friend on Facebook.

To the best of your ability, to the practical limits of your budget, serve a multi-course dinner as often as you can instead of bowls of single flavors. Your metrics will suffer to some degree, but you and your guests will be much more satisfied with you after it’s all over, won’t they?

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November 3, 2010
Vote!
Regardless of what you think of (party) or (candidate) or (incumbent), regardless of how badly broken you think (political body) is or how corrupt (government process) is, go vote. Not sure who to vote for?
- Vote for people who support the things you support.
- If you like things more or less how they are now, the people who are marked Incumbent on your ballots are in part responsible for that. Vote for them.
- If you don’t like things how they are now, vote for someone who doesn’t have Incumbent next to their name.
- Vote for people who participate in the communities you care about – local communities or digital ones.
- Virtually every politician out there is running a Twitter account now. @reply to the ones on your ballot and see who responds. If they’re not listening now, they won’t be listening in office either. Let that guide your vote a tiny little bit.
Whatever your methodology, whatever your choices, exercise them. Unless you’re a wealthy old white male landowner, chances are once upon a time in this nation you would not have had the right to vote. You do now. Use it.

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November 2, 2010
Five #30better things you can do
Five #30better things you can do

Over the weekend, I suggested that you start out doing one thing a day that will make a change in your life for the better over the next 30 days.

Pick one thing and do it consistently over the next 30 days. So that you get an idea of the scope of what I’m talking about, here are some suggestions you can use for #30better:

1. Get a half gallon jug/bottle and fill it with plain water at the start of every day. By the end of the day, make sure you’ve consumed it all.

2. Start every day with one minute of meditation. Nothing special, nothing fancy. Just sit at home, in your parked car, or at work (ideally before anyone gets there) where you can have a guaranteed minute, a full 60 seconds, of silence. Use a countdown timer on a watch or mobile phone, and for just a minute, practice just closing your eyes, keeping your back straight, and breathing deeply. If you need words to say in order to give your brain something to do, on every deep breath in, mentally say the word HERE. On every deep breath out, mentally say the word NOW.

3. Before you leave the office, on the commute home, or whatever you do to make the transition from the day to home life (whatever that may be), find one piece of audio or video content that makes you laugh out loud and watch/listen to it. Make it a goal every day for 30 days to make the transition into non-working time with a laugh and a smile. It’s tougher than you think.

4. Go for a walk for 5 minutes every day, perhaps after lunch.

5. Pick a new person every single day at random from your social networks and spend 5 minutes learning about them. Dig into their profile, their blog, what they do, and really learn about who’s in this so-called social network of yours.

The secret to #30better (and to all life change) isn’t picking something big and unsustainably splashy. It’s picking something achievable that you can and will commit to and doing it. All of the suggestions above are things that take minimal time and effort, but can potentially improve your life, health, or power. Most of them are things you can do at the last minute, so if it’s 11:55 at night and you’ve forgotten, you can still go for a walk or drink a whole lot of water.

Don’t skip around, either. Pick one and stick with it. Make that promise to yourself, keep it, and see how much it changes your sense of self-discipline and self-perspective.

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November 1, 2010
Change for the better
Change for the better

For every ailment under the sun
There is a remedy, or there is none;
If there be one, try to find it;
If there be none, never mind it.
– Mother Goose

The first step on your path to freedom starts with a simple understanding of the things about yourself that you can and cannot change. Freedom begins in understanding which parts of yourself are within your power to change and which parts are not.

Attempt to change what you cannot and life will be frustration without end.

Ignore the changes within your grasp and life will be fruitless at best.

All change, however, needs momentum. All change needs a spark, a gentle push, something to get the wheel rolling.

Here’s a simple question to ask yourself:

What one thing can you change about yourself – a habit, a practice – in the next 30 days?

As we cross over into November, what one thing can you change for the better? Choose something daily, something measurable, and something you can achieve. Post it here if you like, hashtag it with #30better, share it with friends, and make one change in the next 30 days for the better.

Ready?

It’s my life, it’ll change for the better
I’ve faced the light
It’s worth the fight
See a new day
Start a new way
Get it straight
Make a change for the better
– Journey

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October 31, 2010
It Gets Better: Marketing
There’s a very inspiring project created by Dan Savage called It Gets Better, in which people lend their voices to LGBT teens to encourage them in the face of bullying and harassment. I added my own perspective and encourage you to add yours.

Hi. My name is Christopher Penn, Vice President of Strategy and Innovation at Blue Sky Factory, one of the Inc. 5000’s fastest growing companies in America. I have this message for lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender kids. It gets better. It gets a lot better.

Here’s why: it gets better because after you leave the little fishbowl of school, there’s an entire world out there that needs your differences. Now, I have no experience of what it’s like to be gay or bisexual, but I do know what it’s like to be different, growing up as a minority in an overwhelming majority. The things that set you apart as different in school are in many cases the things that employers are desperately going to need when you’re out of school.

I work in marketing, and one of the hardest things in the world is to figure out what’s called a unique selling proposition, the thing that makes your product or service different. If you’re a member of the majority that’s never been different or experienced different, this is an incredibly difficult thing to do and it’s why the ads for so many products and services really suck.

If, on the other hand, you can see different, you can create different, you can think different, then you can be incredibly successful in business. Doing what everyone else is doing, trying to be what everyone else is will get you to second place at best. Only those folks who are different, who are willing to step outside the status quo and go where others are afraid to will succeed.

You feel different now and may feel like that’s a negative. It won’t be. Stay with us. Keep going. Keep persevering through other people’s shortsightedness, because in the real world, all of us need your differences on our team to succeed.

It gets better.

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October 29, 2010
This opportunity comes once in a lifetime
You better lose yourself in the music, the moment
You own it, you better never let it go
You only get one shot, do not miss your chance to blow
This opportunity comes once in a lifetime

– Eminem

One of the reasons we miss opportunities is that we fail to see them for what they are. Our conventional, jaded, cynical view of the world (made that way in part by marketers hyping everything mundane as extraordinary, sorry) closes our eyes to opportunities that are literally right in front of us. It’s not that they aren’t there, it’s just that we don’t have the eyes to see them. We see a friend request as a statistic. We see a tweet as noise – in fact, we even treat discussion of friends as signal to noise ratios.

I love the lyrics in Eminem’s song Lose Yourself, which in part open this blog post (video). What if, instead of simply seeing life as a series of drab, boring events, we saw each day as opportunity? What if instead of sleepwalking through the day, each day was instead our one chance, our shot to take? How would you work, play, live if every day was the opportunity to have that breakthrough you’ve been waiting your whole life for?

I’m not saying to be naive. Absolutely not everything in every day is going to be that amazing opportunity. Absolutely not every email you get will be THE break you’ve been waiting for. But there are plenty more opportunities for enjoyment, amazement, wonder, and awakening than we are conditioned to look for, little moments that you will completely and totally miss – and deeply regret. What if you were so jaded and inured to life and the people in it that you stopped paying attention to the smiles of your children?

It doesn’t have to be that way. Life doesn’t have to feel that way. Here’s a simple but powerful antidote: look for opportunities. Look for the things that you want more of in your life. Look for more happiness, more smiles, more love, more prosperity. It’s there. It’s there waiting in front of you, waiting for you to open your eyes and ears to realize it. Ask yourself the next time you feel cynical words rising through your mind to your tongue: what if this were the opportunity, the one shot? How would you listen to it differently? How would you treat it differently? What would you say or do differently if this were your chance?

The original music video:

Do not miss your chance.

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October 29, 2010
The genuine absence of leadership
Dear politicians:

I have watched with interest, mostly feigned, at this season’s political advertising, and I applaud you for being incredibly effective in your attack ads, which seem to be 99% of your advertising spend. You have done an amazing job of convincing me of this simple fact:

Not one of you corrupt morons should ever be allowed in office.

As a marketer, I get that you need to contrast yourself with the other folks running. In regular marketing, some contrast is mandatory. But by spending all your time telling me why I shouldn’t vote for the other guy or gal, you’ve convinced me you’re all a bunch of corrupt morons, regardless of party or affiliation, because I’m sure there’s a grain of truth in each of your attack ads somewhere in there.

Let me give you a comparative analogy. Pretend we’re all on a desert island somewhere, and most of us have survived a plane crash. As the survivors gather and figure out what’s going on, we start the inevitable discussion about who should lead us and what roles we should take to help the community survive until we’re rescued.

What you’re doing by throwing as many attack ads is effectively having two or more people on the desert island screaming at each other: DON’T FOLLOW HIM! HE’LL EAT ALL THE COCONUTS! That’s not leadership. If government were a matter of desert island life or death, the rest of us would leave you on the beach to starve and die.

Wait a minute. Government is a matter of life or death, for our society as a whole. Take a look around. 14.7 million people are unemployed. 26.4 million people are underemployed – that’s nearly 1 in 5 working Americans. The desert island is the entire country, and a good portion of us are hungry, if not starving while you spend all your time screaming why the other guy/gal/party is a bad choice, while stealing as many coconuts as you can.

Our only hope is that the citizens of America do as the desert island folks would do: leave you idiots to starve to death on your own and run this place ourselves. Call social media a fishbowl, call it frivolity or time wasting, call it narcissistic, but PodCamp Boston 5 raised $7,000 towards the Greater Boston Food Bank’s Kids Meals program. One silly little conference started by Chris Brogan and I a few years ago has done more real good for people with immediate need than all of your political campaign spending combined.

So politicians, congratulations. Your attack ads have achieved their goals: you’ve convinced me that the other guy or gal shouldn’t get elected. Unfortunately for you, they’ve convinced me the same about you.

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October 26, 2010
Who to follow: serendipity or segmentation?
One of the most hotly contested discussion topics at PodCamp NH this past weekend was the question of who to follow on social networks like LinkedIn and Twitter. As has been discussed many times before, some people believed in casting a wide net and following many, while others believed in being highly selective and following just a few. By the end of the discussion, I’m not convinced folks were any more clear as to which strategy to pursue.

Here’s a different way to look at the question: what are your goals? Broadly, there are two different goals you could be pursuing with your social networking strategy, segmentation and serendipity.

If you have a goal of creating a tight, highly valuable network where the only interactions you have are with people you know and trust, you’re effectively pursuing a segmentation strategy. You’re looking to get maximum value out of the content that comes from the network, at the cost of not having as much reach. This is especially effective when you want to target a very specific niche as a marketer.

If you have a goal of creating a broad, diverse network where you’re interacting with many people across many different industries and backgrounds, you’re pursuing a serendipity strategy. You’re looking to get maximum value out of the network itself, creating fruitful grounds for interconnections in your network and connections through you as its hub. This comes at the cost of a lack of focus in the content of the network. A serendipity strategy is especially effective when you’re looking to reach people in different pockets, pools, or verticals, as well as when you’re looking for new and different ideas.

Neither strategy is “right”. Neither strategy is inherently better than the other. One focuses on value through content, the other focuses on value through the network. Which strategy you choose depends on what kind of value you want. It’s also worth pointing out that neither strategy is black and white or as clear cut. You can still create some opportunities for serendipity while having a focus on content, and you can still create some opportunities to find content while having a focus on the network. It’s just a question of which value you’ll get more of.

Do you know which kind of value you want?

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October 25, 2010
What Eye of the Storm can teach us about strategy and execution
What Eye of the Storm can teach us about strategy and execution

Over the past weekend, the weekly battleground in World of Warcraft was Eye of the Storm. For those who don’t play, Eye of the Storm is a lot like capture the flag games from your childhood. Your team, which is randomly assembled from all the people who want to play, has to capture up to 4 bases and then bring a flag from the center of the battlefield to a friendly base. Imagine a baseball diamond with a flag on the pitcher’s mound and you get the general idea. You do this until your team reaches a certain number of points, then you win.

As with all other battlegrounds in World of Warcraft, there are no guides, hints, or clues as to what you’re supposed to do once you’re on the playing field. The battle starts and the game is on. What happens next is entirely up to the players.

One of the things I’ve noticed about Eye of the Storm more than other battlegrounds is that very often, there’s no clear agreement even among veteran players as to what strategy the team should use. Should you capture as many bases as possible first to start accruing points? Should you capture just one and go after the flag right away?

What ends up happening in successful games is that someone shouts out a very clear, detailed strategy from the very beginning, reiterates it, and as soon as the game starts, the team (who have largely never met each other before) goes out and does it with frequent reminders. Here’s the thing: the strategy very often isn’t a good one. It’s a mediocre strategy at best if you read all of the theorycrafting blogs about Eye of the Storm on the Web.

Here’s why mediocre strategy tends to win: the first couple of minutes in a battleground set the momentum, tone, and rhythm of the battle. For the most part, both teams on the field have been assembled randomly. Having a strategy as soon as the game starts, even a deeply imperfect one, gets everyone organized and quickly working towards goals while the other team figures out what they want to do.

Does this sound familiar? It should. In marketing, in business, in competition we are often faced with situations exactly like this, over and over again. A new niche in an industry opens up, and the winner more often than not is one that can take a strategy of moderate quality and execute on it early and flawlessly while everyone else tries to figure out what to do. It takes significant resources and effort to overcome that early advantage, to change momentum in a different direction.

Take this lesson away if nothing else: your strategy doesn’t ever have to be perfect, only your relentless execution of it. Do this as much as you can and not only will your team win Eye of the Storm more often, but your business may flourish because of it, too.

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October 22, 2010
It takes two to make a bully
I was reading bedtime stories the other night and came across a gem by Richard Scarry in the 365 Bedtime Stories compendium, which I think is incredibly illustrative of the way we dealt with bullies in the past and the way we deal with them now.

In the short story The Rudiments, a boy is bullied in the schoolyard and goes home to his father. His father, knowing how the rules of the schoolyard go, teaches his son the rudiments of boxing. Later on, the bully returns to the boy and gets a bloodied nose for his efforts. They make up afterwards and become schoolyard friends.

How much our culture has changed in the 35 years since Scarry’s book was written. How little personal responsibility we are willing to take, and how little personal responsibility we encourage our children to take for their own safety, welfare, and confidence. I’m reminded of a quote from my teacher’s teacher, Stephen K. Hayes: it takes two to make a bully – the bully and a willing victim. Most bullies are folks who are not looking for a fair fight. They’re looking for someone to use. If it’s obvious you’re not going to roll over and give in, they’ll typically move on to someone easier, someone who is willing to play the role they want them to play.

When I look at the “epidemic” of schoolyard bullying, there is blame to be assigned, unquestionably. It’s not the school’s fault. It’s not the bullies’ fault. It’s not the child’s fault.

The blame squarely falls on the parents of the bullied child.

Now, just to be clear, the bully has as much responsibility for the act of bullying as the victim, but the reality of life is that there will always be bullies, jackasses, profoundly clueless and deeply irresponsible people, and just plain idiots. When they do something stupid, it has an impact, unquestionably, but you have little to no control over them. You have total control over yourself and how you choose to respond, and a bullied child has that same control and responsibility. That’s where parents are falling down hard now – they’re taking away (or never giving) their kids that power.

Every time you intercede on your child’s behalf or appeal to the school system, every time you negotiate for more impotent rules to attempt to govern the behavior of other people’s kids, every time you whisk your child away from an unpleasant situation without encouraging them to solve it for themselves, every time you give away your child’s power to stand up for themselves to a teacher, monitor, lawyer, principal, you make them that much weaker and more vulnerable to bullying, especially when they’re very young. It’s akin to blasting your immune system with antibiotics every time you get a runny nose. The immune system’s ability to fight back is never tested and strengthened, and when some serious illness comes along, your body completely caves in. The same exact principle is at work every time you swoop in to rescue your child.

Stop coddling your child and interceding on their behalf, and teach them how to fight back by whatever means are available. Enroll them in a martial arts class. Teach them how to network and be an incredible friend-maker so that other kids in the schoolyard will ally with your child, even if they’re physically not able to fight back. Teach them most of all how to stand up for themselves against all those who would do them harm, because if you don’t, they will be permanent victims for life.

When I was a kid, I got a healthy dose of bullying in the schoolyard, especially being small, short, and not especially athletic. Instead of just giving into it or crying to my parents about it, I took action, finding friends willing to help me stand up against it and finding my own, very unique ways to fight back against it. Later on, I got involved in the martial arts to strengthen my physical abilities to protect myself and the people I cared about, but most important, my parents (especially my dad) encouraged me to stand up for myself however I could from very early on, and true to form, the bullies went elsewhere, for easier opportunities.

Bullying changes as you get older, but it never stops. The physical acts of violence might diminish, perhaps, but there are just as many bullies in your cubicle farm now as there are on your playground of yesterday. The tormentor who made fun of you being tall, short, black, white, fat, thin, whatever back then is the one who gossips against you now, sending memos to undercut you, makes discriminatory comments behind your back, and is working to sabotage the people around him or her because they can.

If your child never learns how to stand up and punch someone in the face (literally or metaphorically) from very early on, then they will endure it for the rest of their lives, because bullies and asshats are a perpetual constant. Wouldn’t you rather give your child the confidence to escape or stop a bad situation when they’re very young, so that they learn it’s okay to stand up for themselves, that it’s not okay to be a victim, for the rest of their lives?

What if your child became so strong, so confident, so powerful in their own right with your guidance that they not only stood up for themselves, but stood up for others and were able to make their own schoolyard world a little brighter, more cheerful, more safe? Wouldn’t that be amazing? It all starts with your role as a parent to help build that strong personality, that strength of character and confidence, that iron will to act and not waver in the face of wrongness.

Incidentally, those are also the attributes of the people we call heroes.

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October 21, 2010

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