Category: Awakening

  • How to become an authority

    Seoul Korea Day 2

    Everything from social reputation to search engine optimization has lately been hinging on this fuzzy concept of authority. Let’s make it a little less fuzzy.

    Authority is derived from Latin, from auctoritas, which is in turn derived from augeo, which means to augment. In it’s most classical form, an authority is someone who sanctions, authorizes, or cultivates. You augment someone else’s stuff, by declaring it legal, by recognizing it, and through your influence, getting others to recognize it. Where your authority comes from depends on the context, but for marketing (as well as political) purposes, authority is influence given to you by the people around you.

    Google has long used inbound links as the metric of judging who has given you influence. The more people who link to you, your works, and your content, the more authority has been invested in you by other people. These days, Google and other search engines have broadened their own understanding of authority and influence to include social media. Authority now not only includes what links to you, but who.

    So how do you become an authority? How do you begin to have people give influence to you? At the risk of being trite, you have to have something other people want, something other people value. For example, we are swimming in data right now. We have far more data than we know what to do with. Who has authority? Someone like Avinash Kaushik, who doesn’t have more data, but has ways of helping you understand the data you do have and turn it into something useful.

    Mitch Joel isn’t the world’s best social media practitioner. Far from it, by his own admission. What he does have is the ability to see large trends, macro perspectives, and then write about them in a way that is accessible and understandable. He’s done this for decades, and he’s been an authority in his fields throughout his life.

    Chris Brogan’s self-confessed “secrets” are common sense, rephrased and recontextualized so that you understand them in the marketing, social, and business arenas. For people who can’t make an intuitive leap from one arena to another, his value to them is that guidance over the chasm, and people grant him authority for it.

    Do you see the trend here? The authorities are not the folks necessarily inventing stuff (some are, of course), but the folks who can take stuff that you have, that we all have, and transform it into something useful and valuable. So the question is, what do you have in terms of skills, abilities, access, connections, ideas, or talents that can take what you have now (and you have quite a lot) and transform it into value that other people want?

    One tip I give with great frequency for finding that value is to look back at your childhood. What things did people value about you when you were a kid? There are personality traits that are so deeply ingrained in us that they’re a core of who we are, but time, society, and work have obscured those traits to us and made us forget who we are at our core. When I was in second grade, for example, we started to have computers in school, and I knew without a doubt that they’d be a big part of my life from then on. I was good at using them, but I was really good at helping other people use them and get value out of them. Fast forward a quarter of a century, and what people value me for now is pretty much the same thing, because that core trait is still in me. Instead of trying to be someone I’m not, I put who I am and always have been front and center.

    Bonus: it’s really easy to do what I do now, because all I have to be is myself and who I’ve always been. I don’t have to master being someone I’m not, and by being who I’ve always been, I’m taking advantage of decades of mastery at being me. That’s incredibly freeing, and something I hope you find for yourself. As my teacher Mark Davis says, study something old (your past) to learn something new!


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  • Empire Avenue is an Awesome Social Pyramid Scheme Game

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  • Write what you do not know

    Write what you know is one of the most often repeated cliches when it comes to content creation. There’s good reason for it – by sharing the knowledge and experience you have, you can contribute more than, say, idle speculation or uninformed opinion (though there’s plenty of both online). Writing what you know is a great place to start.

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    There will come a time, however, when you find that you’re going in circles. There will come a time when you find that you’re not creating anything new, but saying the same things over and over again. If you’re a blogger and you find that you’re having to Google whether you’ve covered a topic already, then you’re at that point. If you’re saying the same thing over and over again on Twitter, then you’re at that point.

    Once you’ve reached the re-runs stage of your content creation, you have to be brave enough, bold enough, and aware enough to shatter the “write what you know” truism. It served you very well up to this point, but in order to grow, you have to transcend it and start to write what you don’t know.

    How do you write what you don’t know? Research. Investigate. Explore. Adventure. Find a direction and set sail for it, taking along all of your audience on the quest to new lands. A good number of them will go along with you because frankly, if you’ve only written what you know and you’re into re-runs (or worse, re-runs of re-runs rehashed), they’re looking for a new adventure too.

    I’ll give you a personal example. Right now I’m investigating and learning about Like Gating on Facebook – content that displays differently depending whether you’ve Liked a page or not. I’ve got the very basic version down (it’s a PHP include at its core) but now I’m exploring to see what other data is available along with the basic method. By no means am I an expert in the topic or even a competent practitioner. I’m just starting out in this research, but what I’m finding will definitely be worth sharing as soon as I’m able to adequately explain it to myself.

    The process of exploring, of writing about what I don’t know and learning what I don’t know, is reinvigorating. It’s opening up new ideas, new ways of looking at something, challenging old beliefs, challenging old cliches, and I love it. As Stephen K. Hayes says, it’s far more enriching to explore new ideas than it is to defend old answers.

    What are you exploring now? If you’re stuck in a rut, if you’re stuck looking for things to share, what could you be exploring?


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  • Back from the road

    After two weeks of travel, excitement, and learning, I’m back. Before anything else, I’d like to thank all of the guest authors who kept the blog not only going, but with content that was top-notch. If you missed any of the guest posts, please take a few moments to read up on what you missed:

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    As for the trip itself, it was an amazing, wonderful, and interesting experience. Let’s talk about a few different pieces, then dig into pieces in subsequent posts.

    Normally, I hate to fly. Not because being shot across the sky in a giant aluminum tube frightens me, but because flying is such a miserable exercise, thanks to the TSA, cost cutting, and airlines trying to squeeze every last dime out of you. 14 hours in coach across the Pacific Ocean sounds like a recipe for Hell itself. Thankfully, for the trip I decided to go via Korean Air rather than a US carrier, and what an incredible difference that made. Meals that were hot, filling, and actual food instead of various snacks in bags. In-seat entertainment that was better than some of the stuff I had at home. Flight crew that were amazingly attentive and courteous, not to mention hardworking – they literally cleaned the restrooms on the hour, every hour during the trip.

    The best part was that all of the amenities (including the slippers, toothbrush, toothpaste, blankets, pillows, wine & beer, etc.) were all bundled into the price, so once I was on board, there was nothing else to pay for. Even the aircraft itself was configured nicely. One non-obvious fact about aircraft is that they are basically large rooms when ordered; the customer (the airline) orders how many seats, restrooms, etc. will be in each aircraft. In the case of Korean Air, all of the seats even in economy had more legroom and room in general than premium legroom seats on domestic US carriers.

    If every airline managed to provide the same level of service and quality of experience that Korean Air did, flying would be a joy (minus the TSA) rather than a punishment. Of course, the reason that airlines like Korean Air can provide vastly superior experiences is that they’re flag carriers, which means they are either part of or heavily subsidized by their national governments. The government of South Korea founded and funds Korean Air. Squeezing every last passenger you can possibly fit (and overbooking by 150%) isn’t necessary when you’re paid for by the taxpayers. As a result, all of the little quality of life factors add up to make a much better experience, which means less air rage, which means the staff is inclined to treat you better… which means a better experience, etc. in a nice virtuous circle.

    Korea itself was an amazing experience as well. I’ll dig more into it in subsequent writings, but here’s a few fun tidbits:

    There’s no diet soda, or very little. Coke Zero is about it. No artificial sweeteners – on the table will be regular sugar, raw sugar, and finely ground sugar, but that’s it.

    Seoul Korea Day 2

    Decaf is practically unheard of. Koreans make up for this by serving a depressingly weak cup of coffee. Speaking of which, there are coffeehouses EVERYWHERE in Seoul. No joke, there are more Starbucks and Dunkin Donuts in Seoul than there are in Boston. The photo above is right outside Deoksugung Palace, one of the five royal palaces where tradition and history meet modern Seoul. I love that a palace guard stands watch over not only the palace grounds, but the local Dunks.

    Seoul Korea Day 3

    Seoul itself is a gigantic megacity like none other I’ve been to. 26 million people living in one city, more than twice the size of New York. Yet amazingly, almost no litter and no visible homelessness. Granted, I spent a lot of time in the tourist-y areas which should be cleaner than the average city block, but even in New York City in the best areas there’s still plenty of both.

    Seoul Korea Day 4

    McDonald’s delivers.

    Portion sizes are very small, and the food can be insanely spicy. I had a chuckle at the supermarket after I got back while seeing a headline at the checkout counter – “ASIAN SECRET TO GETTING THIN”. Really simple: portion sizes are probably 30% of what’s served on a plate in America. Our appetizers are the size of Korean entrees. If you cut 70% of the food you ate and made the rest ridiculously spicy (so as to avoid eating too fast), you’d be thinner too.

    QR codes are EVERYWHERE. From coffee cups to store shelves, there isn’t a place without a pile of QR codes.

    Gasoline is about $8-9/gallon.

    If you’d like to see the rest of the photos from the trip, you’ll find them here.

    More to come in the days ahead, but I’ve got a massive inbox to clean now, so we’ll talk a bit later.


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  • What’s Obvious to You?

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    When C.C. Chapman and I were writing our book Content Rules, I kept asking him, “Does this have any value?” “Isn’t this stuff that everyone already knows?” And ultimately, “Isn’t this obvious?”

    Well guess what? It wasn’t obvious. And thousands of book sales and tons of positive reviews later, I finally grok that.

    Derek Sivers, the founder of CD Baby, calls this “Obvious to You. Amazing to Others.” In a video he released the other day, based on an earlier blog post, he says, “Any creator of anything knows this feeling: You experience someone else’s innovative work. It’s beautiful, brilliant, breath-taking. You’re stunned…..

    “Afterwards, you think, ‘My ideas are so obvious. I’ll never be as inventive as that.’”

    But in his own work, Sivers discovered something surprisingly profound, he says, “Everybody’s ideas seem obvious to them.” Great musicians or artists struggle with this too. But the key is to rememeber one thing: What’s obvious to you is amazing to someone else.

    Why is it that we are terrible judges of our own creative value? It’s because we stand too close to our own selves. It’s impossible to maintain any perspective; our purview is inherently limited.

    I see this all the time when I talk to companies about the content they are producing as part of their business: They think that their blog post ideas are silly, or ridiculous, or so painfully obvious that it’s not worth talking about, because their customers already know whatever it is that they consider sharing. (Hint: No, they don’t.)

    That lack of perspective limits companies in other ways, too, when they rely on insider-y language, corporate-ese or “Frankenspeak” (as we call it in Content Rules) to get their messages across. They forget that the language they use inside their industries or companies isn’t the most effective language with which to communicate with customers. Again, they’re standing too close.

    So what about you: Are you holding back something that seems too obvious to share? How do you try to gain perspective on your own work?


    Hat tip to C.C. for the video.

    What’s Obvious to You? 1Ann Handley is the Chief Content Officer of MarketingProfs and the co-author of Content Rules. People seem to like her writing. She’s a huge deal on Twitter, a point which might make her family proud, if only they knew what that meant.

  • With Great Challenge Comes Great Adaptability

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    With Great Challenge Comes Great Adaptability 2

    “Intelligence is the ability to adapt to change. ”  – Stephen Hawking

    Most of my life I’ve faced one challenge or another.  Nothing special, plenty of people have faced darker roads. A host of them came from making bad choices in the midst of the challenges I faced which lead me not so elegantly to another bad situation. As a result of each challenges, I learned to adapt quickly and you can too.

    Whether you need to adapt because of the decisions you’ve made or because of the decisions someone else made or a situation that nature caused, the first lesson to learn is that change is inevitable.  There is no way to avoid change and the chaos that comes with it.  Don’t try sticking your head in the sand.  It doesn’t work.

    You want to quit your job and do something that makes you happy.  But you live in fear.  You’re tired of what you’ve been doing the past decade and want to try something new.  But you stall on taking the steps to make it happen.  A competitor came up with that innovative new idea faster than you.  But you dismiss the concerns of your smartest employees pointing out the signs until it’s too late.

    Instead of ignoring what’s happening or running around in a panic-induced purple haze with flying invisible pink monkeys, here are three ways you become more adaptable so such things don’t throw you entirely off your game.

    • Just make the f—king choice already.  There’s only so much you can debate before you can do before making a choice. Yes, give yourself time to enter the witness state, but then choose a path.
    • Don’t waste time asking “Why?”.  Does it really matter?  What happened, happened.  It’s what you do next that shapes the future.
    • Do not underestimate kind, loyal, and punch-you-in-the-face-with-the-truth friends to keep you straight. They’ll keep you from making foolhardy decisions out of snap judgement.

    Don’t make the excuse that you can’t handle what’s happening.  All of the life challenges you’ve experienced up until this moment have conditioned you to be able to handle whatever may come with more grace than you think is possible.

    Don’t make the mistake of fighting with reality.  The faster you accept whatever change has happened, the more quickly you can adapt.

    Lastly, adaptability also requires an understanding of parts at a granular level.  If you understand all the parts, you can rearrange them much faster and achieve a better outcome in the end.

    Even though developing adaptability takes much strength, courage and fearlessness, paradoxically, the more adaptable we are, the stronger, more courageous and fearless we will become.  And when we learn to adapt we gain the ability to face anything, a superhero’s strength that will allow us to fight off the real villains when they come calling.

     

    With Great Challenge Comes Great Adaptability 3Michelle (Chel) Wolverton is a productivity hacker, social marketing strategist, WordPress dev, and geeky accomplice to several individuals and businesses as the owner of Chel Consulting.  She deals with the yearly insanity of being lead organizer for Podcamp Boston, an unconference that strives to teach those new to podcasting and social media. She blogs over on chelpixie.com at random and often shares her snarkiness on Twitter as @chelpixie.

  • 4 Steps To Awaken Your Superhero Power

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    Incredible HulkYou are a superhero.

    My bet is that you can’t leap buildings in a single bound. I have a feeling that you can’t fly. It’s unlikely that you can make yourself invisible. You may have 20/20 vision (or better), but chances are its not X-ray vision.

    But, you are a superhero.

    Comic book superheroes possess a some type of super-human strength or power, often used to protect and/or “save the day.” (at least the good ones do). Real life superheroes have a unique power or strength that drives them to happiness and/or success. I guarantee there is something you know, something you do, a skill you have that is incredible. Something that is awesome. Something that makes you rise to the top, stand above the rest.

    The challenge, of course, is to awaken your superhero power.

    4 Steps To Awaken Your Superhero Power

    Below are 4 suggested steps to awaken the superhero that lives within you.

    1. Determine what drives you.

    Take out a piece of paper and a pen (or the online equivalent). Write down the 10 things that you could not live without. These can be material (i.e., iPhone) and/or intangible (i.e., your family).

    ***It is important that you do not read ahead. I know it’s tempting, but write down that list of 10 before continuing.***

    Ok. Now, take that list and eliminate half of it. What remains are the 5 things you can not live without.

    Now, the hardest part: Remove 2 more. If you’ve followed the directions, you’ll have a list of 3 things/people you can’t live without. Look at this list. Study it. These 3 things are the most important things in your life. They are what drive you. My bet is there is a person (family, friend, significant other, etc) on that list. Be sure that whatever you do in life, the things &/or people on this list play a critical role.

    2. Uncover, then play to your strengths.

    The first part of this is a blog post eBook novel in and of itself. However, once you’ve determined what you are good at, focus on it. Craft your skill. Work on improving it. Don’t waste your time on stuff you are not good at. To be clear, I’m not suggesting that you don’t try to learn new things; I’m saying that your time may be better spent going good to great instead of crappy to better than crappy. Make sense? With the incredible amount of information that is available today and the ease at which one can access it, it can be very easy – even tempting – to try and learn everything. Trust me. I struggle with this too. However, once you’ve figured out what’s important to you (see #1) and what you’re good at, work on becoming the best you can be.

    3. Someone will always be smarter than you.

    If you are competitive – with others and yourself – and a perfectionist, this one is tough to swallow. I’ve been thinking, eating, breathing, and sometimes sleeping email marketing for nearly 6 years. I think I know quite a bit; however, there are tons of email folks out there who are way smarter than me; others who are better writers, better speakers, better with clients, etc. We are all always learning, but will never 100% perfect our strengths (#3). Someone will always be better. Accept it. Move on.

    Also, “smart” is relative. My wife is an Ob/Gyn. She knows a ton about medicine; a ton about women’s health, pregnancy, babies, etc. She is way smarter than me when it comes to this stuff. Is she the smartest Ob/Gyn on the planet? Unlikely. It’s all relative.

    4. Have fun.
    Let’s face it. Not everyone loves their job. Some of us have things going on in our personal lives that would not fall into the “fun” category. We all have days (weeks?) that suck – both at work and at home. But if you are not having fun, why bother? It may be time to stop and figure out what is missing in your life – in your control – that is preventing you from enjoying it. Life’s too short. Are you really having fun? (Note: There is a video in that blog post showing my wife & I in a wedding “Baby Got Back” dance off. Only watch if you want to smile).

    4 Steps To Awaken Your Superhero Power 4DJ Waldow is a knowledge craver, a sponge, and a lover of beer, coffee & people (in no particular order). He is the Director of Community @BlueSkyFactory. and lives in Salt Lake City with his wife (K-Dawg) and 1 year old (@babywaldow). DJ is not only a U of Michigan, alum, but also a raving fan. He blogs on Social Butterfly Guy.

  • The power of realization or Superheros are where you find them

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    The power of realization or Superheros are where you find them 5

    When I saw human resources’ number come up on my phone display, I knew I’d gotten it, too. After the brief and awkward meeting and requisite paper signing, I headed back to my office, packed up my stuff and took one last look out the 38th floor window at a deserted Burnham Harbor. It was a good run, I thought. Great people. Visible position. Nice paycheck, good benefits. I’ll miss this view. Who will adopt my orchids? I’ll miss this office chair. Then – choking back tears – What now?

    I sought refuge at my then boyfriend’s rustic West Loop loft, assuaging my sorrows with old movies, bologna sandwiches (a symbol of my new pauperism) and a fair number of tears, while my beau, Tom, worked away in the other room.

    While Tom (not his real name), a musician, had been employed by others on and off over the years, he made his main living by hustling clients for a half dozen different concerns ranging from website development to graphic design to sound engineering, seasoned with a smattering of paying music gigs.

    Tom was not particularly organized or ambitious, but he usually managed to keep enough dough rolling in to keep the lights on and food in the refrigerator. Sometimes just barely. And sometimes the lights got turned off. Inconvenient and uncomfortable? Yes. But somehow, he lived.

    While ruminating on my situation during the movie marathon, I realized something. Not only did Tom always seem to always figure out a way make things work, by my definition at least, he also was free. As were many of my other creative, self-employed friends. They all were in control of their own destiny. Looking back, I’m pretty sure that’s not how they saw it, but at the time that’s what I perceived. And I realized I wanted that. I wanted to be free and in control. More than anything.

    I half-heartedly scanned ads looking to replace or maybe even upgrade my lost gig. A small severance provided some financial cushion, but my pride had hit the floor, hard. And the recent awareness of my deep desire to be free and in control made the idea of going back to work for someone else pretty repulsive. I was screwed.

    Classic movie number 37 playing in the background and my ego still smarting, I thought again about Tom and company. I was 100 times more organized and ambitious than almost all of them. Then this thought: “Hmmh. You know, if they can make it on their own, I bet I can, too.”

    Holy eureka-beam-of-light-streaming-through-the-clouds-angels-singing moment. I bet I can, too.

    I shifted my focus from looking for a job to spinning up skills I’d honed at the agency as a business offering. The result was my first business, Lenalinks, which provided tech writing and project management for some big corporate clients. It was lucrative work but unfortunately it also was (to me) excruciatingly boring, which is what led me back to the marketing industry. But that’s another story, titled something like, “Why an arguably sane person would close a perfectly profitable business, take a 60 percent pay cut and agree to go captive again to hone another craft.” But I digress.

    Actually, the thought – I can, too – was not as important as what came immediate after it, which was the realization. Dictionary definition: An act of becoming fully aware of something as a fact. Also known as an “Ah-ha!”

    Realizations differ from understanding. You can totally understand something intellectually, but still not really understand viscerally the truth of it – what “it” means. To me, “I can, too” meant that there was a completely new set of choices available to me. Bear in mind, nothing in my external world had changed. The realization caused my perception of what was available to me in the external world to change. Same world, yet different world. (Hello, M.C. Escher.)

    Often, one realization sets off a chain reaction that leads to a series of realizations. For instance, the realization that I wanted to be in charge of my own destiny freed my mind to reshuffle my worldview and deliver the realization that it was completely within my power to make it so.

    Realizations can seem to occur completely randomly, but there are ways to condition yourself to have them more reliably. Here are three:

    1. Make being present a priority. Awareness cannot exist in the past or future. Unless you become aware that you’re thinking about the past or future, in which case, you’re actually back in the present. (M.C. Escher reprise.) Some ways to practice being present and strengthen awareness are meditation, yoga and martial arts. The objective of all these disciplines is to get you back in your body, to bring you back to now because now is where all the power is.
    2. Be open to changing your mind. Because I was open to believing something new, or in this case, at least not opposed to the idea of having my own business, my subconscious was free to serve up the realizations I needed to move forward.
    3. Demand insight from discomfort. Being present can be uncomfortable, especially if you’re in a tight spot. It’s natural to want kill the pain. But if you always give into the impulse to drown your sorrows, you may be missing an opportunity to experience a big shift. If instead you can manage to stay present and stare down pain such as fear, embarrassment or grief, you usually will be rewarded with insight. In fact, you should demand that it be so. Said writer, lecturer and mythologist Joseph Campbell, “The cave you fear to enter holds the treasure you seek.”

    The point of this story is (actually, there are three): 1. Sometimes SuperHeros are unwitting, and thus, are where you find them. Don’t be snobbish about who delivers the catalyst message or models a new paradigm. 2. A single shift in your internal world can change your perception of the available choices even if nothing in your external world has changed. Be open to new thoughts. 3. Rather than waiting around for realizations, create the conditions that will allow your mind to more easily present you with them. A hidden pathway to your bold new future may be revealed.

    The power of realization or Superheros are where you find them 6Helena Bouchez is a writer, artist, connector and alchemist who makes a living as a purveyor of public relations and communications for marketing and marketing technology firms. To connect with Helena, follow her on Twitter @helenabouchez or email her at helena at helenabouchez dot com.


     

  • Making the Jump

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    Making the Jump 7I’ll admit to some bias where Chris Penn is concerned. He and I share a similar purpose in life, I think, even though we approach it from two totally different directions.

    I’ve always believed in the superhero idea, and this idea of Chris’s rings particularly true: we have superhero powers, but we don’t necessary have superhero awareness.

    Which brings me to ask this question: What makes a superhero?

    And my answer: The belief you already are one.

    We so often keep our eyes focused on what’s next, on where we want to be. On who we wish we were, or on what we wish we were doing. But the path between here and there has to built, and it has to built on something.

    That something is you.

    My friend Matt Ridings talks about change in terms of building a bridge. Between where you are and where you’re going is the path, the bridge, to get from here to there. But what a lot of us forget is that to build a bridge, you need solid ground on both sides: not only do we need to have at least a directional idea of where we want to go (the other side) and a clear idea of how to get there (the bridge itself), we also need solid ground to build on — right now.

    We forget the importance of finding our current bedrock. Of knowing — and valuing — the person that we are, right now. It’s that appeciation, that valuation, that gives us the confidence, and the courage, to step out over the chasm and onto the bridge we’ve built.

    To me, that’s what awakening your superhero is all about: it’s about understanding where your bedrock is, and what it’s made of. It’s about finding your footing where you are, so that you have a steady base from which to step.

    Without that firm footing we’re literally leaping out at the unknown, with no purpose, and no purchase to our grip.

    It’s counterintuitive, I know: since we want to change, doesn’t that mean, by definition, we dislike where we are now? Or, at least, doesn’t that mean there’s something about us, right now, that warrants change? After all, if we were happy where we are, change wouldn’t be necessary, right?

    But change, real change (as any superhero-awakening is) requires enormous strength. And ignoring — or worse, degrading or denying — some part of yourself you consider unworthy, weakens your position right off the bat.

    It’s like starting with half a you — because that is, in essence, what you’re doing. You’re trying to make a whole change with only part of you.

    And that never works.

    No, the answer lies in taking yourself, warts and all. Of being honest with yourself, about yourself. In finding how to turn your weaknesses into strengths (or at least in figuring out how the strengths you already have are well-suited to mitigating your faults), and in starting in a position of comfort — of confidence.

    So how do you do that?

    Find something you’re proud of. No, really. There’s something about you that you like. Or at least, don’t actively dislike. What is that? How can you build on it?

    Find the Force to your Dark Side. Also really. For those of us used to beating ourselves up, sometimes it’s easier to start from the negative. I’m not suggesting you stay there, but for each of us, we often have the antidote to our particular brand of poison within ourselves. So figure out what you don’t like, and then look for the thing you already have that balances it out. It’s there. Trust me.

    Find a cheerleader. Our internal tape loops get worn out after a while, and we need to hear an outside voice. Find someone who believes in you. Unflinchingly. But someone who can give you straight-up honest feedback — in a way that you’ll actually hear it.They’re the ones who can help set your course, but remind you, too, of how fun where you are right now can be.

    Find your purpose. Yes, this one dives a little deeper, but: What are you here for? What ties all that you do together? What do you really care about? We all do better when we have something to work towards. What is that for you?

    Find your beliefs and values. There’s where you want to go… and then there’s how you want to get there. So know, going in, what you hold dear. What’s most important to you? What assumptions guide your thoughts? What price are you willing to pay? And, perhaps most important what price is too high?

    You can only make a leap by pushing off the ground you’re standing on, so you better know what that is.

    It’s time to fly, superheroes.

    So go on. Grab your cape (or not). And go.

    Making the Jump 8Tamsen Webster specializes in how to tell the right story to the right people at the right time. As the Senior Vice President for Executive Communications at Oratium, a messaging consultancy, Tamsen is responsible for helping brands and individuals tell their stories day-to-day to drive business results. Reach her at [email protected], and follow her on Twitter (@tamadear).

  • We All Have It In Us

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    It is your fault. That is the simple and blunt answer that far to many of you will never embrace as the truth.

    We want more. We crave better. We Lust after what we don’t have but someone near does. We are full of excuses and yet we fail to discover the answer.

    I’ve known my whole life that I am cut from a different cloth. I seek out the road less traveled and rise every morning eager to attack the day head on.

    I know this because a long time ago I realized that everything I ever wanted was out there for the taking. There are always obstacles, distractions and curves you never see coming. That is the comedy of life.

    But, EACH of us has it within ourselves to have all we crave. The trick is turning off the little voice of doubt, the lizard brain that says we can not do it.

    Sit down today and pick one goal. A tangible end that can only be reached or not without any gray maybe in it’s success.

    Now determine what you will do today towards that goal. What will you spend the next week doing to get closer? Finally, in the next month will you reach it or have established new items to get you closer.

    Write these down and find people that will nag, poke and push you to insure you are working towards them. Every time that voice of doubt creeps up in you reach out to one of them to squash it. Can’t reach them? Find a mirror and tell yourself.

    We DO in fact have it inside each of us. Even the greatest of people doubt themselves. The best of us train, learn and master how to push beyond, bend the rules in our favor and achieve our dreams.

    I am sick of all the doubt in the world because I know you have it in you. I know you can do whatever you desire with enough drive and hard work. Life will NEVER be easy, so stop your complaining, find your cape and soar to whatever sunset you crave.

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    C.C. Chapman is an entrepreneur, speaker and author. His first book Content Rules was released last year and he is the Founder of DigitalDads.comwhere a Dad can be a Guy. He writes, speaks and consults with companies of all sizes to empower them to do better with their marketing dollars.

     

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