Christopher S. Penn – Marketing AI Keynote Speaker

Category: Buddhism

Mind Readings: Gratitude and Delusion
In today’s mind readings, some thoughts on gratitude and delusion. Why is gratitude so hard for some people? It’s because gratitude is predicated on being thankful for what you have, and delusion is all about being unhappy that things are different than they are.

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In today’s mind readings, some thoughts, one of the things that I saw recently was.

And I’ve seen this a lot on LinkedIn, people sharing posts about gratitude, expressing gratitude, and doing gratitude exercises, keeping a gratitude journal or diary and stuff.

And I think that’s all important.

It’s all good stuff to do.

So why don’t more people do that? Right? It seems like, it’d be a pretty easy thing to convince somebody off, hey, what would happen if you kept track of all the things in your life that you were thankful for? And you wrote them out daily? Or what would what would your life look like if you kept a running journal running tally of hey, here’s the good things that happened today that I’m really thankful for.

Why don’t we do that? Well, one of the reasons and this is opinion, this is not backed up by scientific fact, I don’t have any papers or academic citations to back this up.

So this literally is just what’s on my mind is that we’re obstructed by delusion.

Now, I’m using delusion in the traditional Buddhist sense, which is wanting things to be different than they are, you’re one of the tenets of Buddhism is that unhappiness comes from wanting things to be different than they are.

I’m, you know, I’m Korean, I’m in my 40s and stuff.

And if I wanted things to be different than they are, if I wanted to be, you know, six feet tall, and have, you know, blonde hair.

That’s not reality.

Right? That is not reality.

And me wanting those things, is delusion.

And the more I focus on, wanting things that are not reality, the less happy I am.

Right, as opposed to acceptance of truth, which is, I’m not six feet tall, I don’t have blonde hair, and I am Korean.

Right? I can if I accept that, then that conflict, of wanting things to be different than they are goes away.

Because I accept this is the way it is, this is what I’ve got to work with.

What’s wrong with it, make the best of it.

Gratitude is predicated on being thankful for what you have.

And if you were unable to see what you have, because you have are mired in delusion of wanting things to be different than the way they are of wanting what you have to be different.

You cannot express gratitude.

There is no way for you to be grateful for things you don’t want.

Right, there is no way for you to be grateful for things you don’t want.

And so as powerful and as useful and as good idea.

And good intentioned.

Things like gratitude exercises are, because they are predicated on accepting the way things are first.

If you’re not there yet, you can’t make those exercises work for you.

So the first step to making stuff like gratitude exercises work for you and make it feel like it sticks.

Like make it feel like it’s something meaningful is those acceptance exercises of here’s the way things are, you know, it’s fine to have goals, things you working towards, you know, if you want to be a millionaire, that’s fine.

What would not be fine is being angry and upset that you’re not a millionaire now, right? Wanting to be a millionaire now, which is not the truth, unless you are a millionaire is delusion.

And so you then can’t be grateful for the roof over your head that you do have for the food that’s in front of you that you can eat, if you have those things for internet access to watch a video like this.

So acceptance exercises come first, what do you have? And it’s okay to, to want things to be different than they are to a degree, if it motivates you to help set you on that path towards getting those things, but still being clear headed and clear eyed about what you have right now.

That’s how you build that pathway towards happiness.

And then you can say yes, I want to be a millionaire someday.

I know that I’m 1000 there right now.

And I’m okay with that right now.

Because now I can see that this is the situation I’m thankful for what I already have.

And it’s okay to want more and build a plan to get there.

But accepting the way things are now unlocks that gratitude.

So

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if you’ve been trying exercise like that, or if you just see posts like that on LinkedIn, and you’re like, internally, what’s wrong with me that I don’t feel what these other folks are apparently feeling that if they feel like they can express much gratitude, then the first place to check in on is, well, do I want things to be different than they are? Am I denying reality? And if you can, can make that determination and then slowly start chipping away at what is not reality until you can get to a point where you can see things clearly and objectively, then maybe those posts will then start to resonate to say, Okay, can you be grat grateful for whatever is happening in your life tip like Well, yeah, you know, nobody crashed a car through my house today.

Nobody hit me in an intersection.

You know, all my customers didn’t fire me today.

My boss didn’t fire me today.

And you can start doing this exercises and start capturing the reality of a situation and then the gratitude that you can come from that.

So that’s today’s mind reading.

Hope you found it useful.

Let me know in the comments, either here or in Slack or wherever it is that we stay in touch.

Let me know what you think.

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February 24, 2022
Why Do I Love Data So Much?
Kate asks, “Why do you have such a fixation on data?”

This is a more interesting, philosophical question than it might first appear. Yes, I emphasize data a great deal in my work; my company, Trust Insights, is rooted in data-driven marketing. But where did this all come from?

A significant part comes from my faith, from my spiritual practice. I’m Buddhist, and that faith aligns with my perspective on the world.

The Four Noble Truths of Buddhism

Buddhism has a fundamental core teaching, something called the Four Noble Truths. You can read any number of academic texts and scholarly interpretations, but the lay explanation I give is basically this:
1. Life sucks.
2. Life sucks for a reason: wanting things to be different than they are.
3. There’s an achievable way for life to stop sucking.
4. The way for life to stop sucking is to stop wanting things to be different than they are.
Any number of Buddhist priests and scholars will correctly argue this is a vast oversimplification of a teaching that’s thousands of years old and can run as deep as the ocean, but it’s how I think of them in practical terms.

We know these truths to be, well, true. Think about any situation where you’ve been unhappy, and at the core of that situation is the desire to want things to be different than they are – a sick loved one, a broken heart, bills piling up. The unhappiness you feel comes from wanting reality to be different than it is.

Now, that doesn’t mean you simply give up. It does mean you accept the situation for what it is so that you can stop being paralyzed by emotional turmoil or expending energy denying the problem and start finding your way out of the situation towards something better.

Buddhism and Data Science

What does this have to do with marketing data science and my love of data? Data – when it’s correct – is our best objective representation of reality, of figuring out the way things are so that we can accept reality. Once we accept reality and stop denying the way things are, we can start down the path of making changes to that reality.

That’s why data and data science are so important to me. Correct data helps us start down the path of accepting what is. We can have opinions about what marketing tactic or strategy is working, but when the attribution analysis rolls out and we see our favored method falling to the bottom of the list or not making the cut at all, we have to acknowledge that it’s not working.

And like ourselves, data is never perfect. There’s always more to gather, more to refine, ways to improve its quality, ways to remove unnecessary elements, misconceptions and misunderstandings to dispel. Data can always be better – and so can we.

Why People Sometimes Struggle With Being Data-Driven

This is also why so many companies and so many individuals struggle with becoming data-driven. It isn’t because you can’t do math. It isn’t because you have zero data. It’s largely rooted in the fact that becoming data-driven means accepting reality as it is currently, and sometimes that reality sucks.

Being data-driven sometimes means saying to your stakeholders, “yeah, we really screwed up this quarter and the numbers are way below our goals“.

Being data-driven sometimes means saying to yourself, “the thing I love, the thing I’m good at, isn’t working“.

Being data-driven sometimes means admitting to your peers, “the thing I’m supposed to be good at, I’m objectively not good at based on the results I’ve generated“.

These are realities that it’s easier and less emotionally painful to gloss over, to ignore, to deny. We’re wired as animals to seek pleasure and avoid pain. When something sucks, when things are going badly, it hurts – and we want to avoid that hurt in the moment, even if it compounds the pain later.

And in some companies, in some cultures, it’s not only easier to deny reality, but sometimes it’s demanded of us. The boss who ignores any report that doesn’t make him look good. The investors who demand only numbers they like.

But denying reality has consequences. In the end, reality always wins.

Should You Love Data?

I say all this to answer Kate’s question. This is why I have such a fixation on data. Data – correctly gathered, understood, and used – is a path towards more truth, even if the truth isn’t positive sometimes.

Once we accept the truth and stop wanting reality to be different than it is, we stop hurting as much. We reduce our frustration. We feel less anger at wanting things to be different than they are – and what emotions we have, we more capably redirect. Instead of denying what’s in front of us, we free ourselves to ask, “Okay, how can I make this better? I accept what is, so what’s possible to change for the better?”

If I accept the truth that I suck at Facebook marketing, that I just can’t get results out of it, then I am free to decide whether I want to improve that set of skills. I no longer have to struggle against the reality that I am unskilled at Facebook marketing, and taking that struggle away frees me.

That said, just as Buddhism isn’t the right spiritual calling for everyone, being data-driven isn’t the right path for everyone either.

If you work in an organization that actively denies reality, being data-driven will only make your work harder.

If you work for a person who prefers comfortable lies over unpleasant truths, being data-driven will be a source of unhappiness to you.

If you work in a place or for someone that encourages people to believe in less truth, in less reality, being data-driven will make you miserable and probably get you fired.

I encourage you, obviously, to consider changing who you work for and what you do for work if you’re in a situation that is so diametrically opposed to reality, but also recognize that sometimes, the choices we have in front of us aren’t good, and there’s merit in patience, in waiting to see if things improve as long as you’re not enduring harm.

If you are enduring harm, I would encourage you to accept that reality (instead of pretending everything is fine) and free yourself to start making a change for the better.

In the end, reality always wins. I encourage you, no matter where you are in your pursuits of becoming data-driven or what your personal faith is, to keep striving for more clarity, more truth, and more acceptance of the way things are so that you clear a path towards better days sooner.

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September 23, 2021
Strengths, Weaknesses, and Finding Your Goldilocks Balance
Daniel Johnson Jr. recently asked:

For every one of my strengths, there is a balcony and a basement level. The balcony level of a strength is when the strength is showing up at its peak effectiveness. The basement level is when the strength can potentially become a weakness. For example, I’m one to whom strangers are simply friends I haven’t met yet. This means that I meet others and break the ice very easily. This is great when I’m in situations where I need to put myself out there. The basement level of this strength can be in coming across as surfacey: I know many people but not that well. What do you think, sir?

Indeed, this is almost exactly right. Any attribute that we have as human beings has three general grades. Think of it almost like Goldilocks and the three bears from the old fairytale. There is too much of an attribute, too little of an attribute, and a range of “just right”.

Take, for example, the ability to meet new people. Too little of this and you come across as shy or antisocial. Just right and you come across as friendly, eager, and inviting. Too much of this and you come across as shallow, that guy who is passing out business cards like candy at a networking event and always looking over the shoulder of the person he’s talking to for someone else to talk to next.

In my martial arts tradition, we categorize four major personality traits with archetypical elements: Earth, Water, Fire, and Wind.

From the Earth, we learn the attribute of confidence and firmness.
- Too little of it and you are easily overwhelmed.
- The right amount of Earth energy lends you confidence and the ability to stand your ground when you’re faced with a situation.
- Too much of it and you are stubborn and intransigent even when faced with the need for change.
The Water element is one of dispassionate, scientific thinking.
- Too little of it and everything is guesswork or corrupted pseudo-scientific thinking, the inability to think clearly about a topic. We see this often today, especially around fad diets and powdered foods and things like the anti-vaccination fraud.
- The right amount of Water energy allows you to be cool, calm, and collected under pressure. You can make decisions while giving yourself enough distance and time to think.
- Too much and you’re cold, calculating, and manipulative, totally heartless.
The Fire archetype is all about passion and connection, very much related to Daniel’s question.
- Too little Fire and you come across as shy, unable to take initiative, and disconnected from yourself and the people around you.
- The right amount of Fire energy makes you eager, outgoing, and happy to make connections. You are connected to your emotions and passionate about the causes you believe in.
- Too much and you are a Marilyn Monroe, an Elvis, or a Kurt Cobain whose passion just burns away balance. You self-destruct because you go beyond passion to desperation.
The Wind element is one of benevolence and seeking a higher cause than yourself.
- Too little, and everything you do in life comes with a “what’s in it for me?” silently (or not so silently) voiced with everything you do.
- The right amount of Wind energy inspires you to take up causes without necessarily seeking benefits for yourself, recognizing the greater good in life and the role you can play to make the world a better place for all.
- Too much, and you are easily distracted and taken away from your core purpose by every new cause that crosses your desk. You never have enough time or money to be productive so that you can make a difference.
From these archetypes, we learn that any individual strength can be insufficient, present in a balanced amount, or overabundant. Equally important, we learn from these archetypes that each has a counterbalance – and those counterbalances provide us the antidotes to areas we’re out of balance.

Earth energy is counterbalanced by Wind energy; standing firm and yielding to others are each important at certain times.
- Got too little Earth energy and you can’t stand up for yourself? Chances are you’re overabundant in Wind, in benevolence and giving too much.
- Got too much Earth energy and you’re stubborn? Chances are you’re deficient in Wind, in putting something or someone else else ahead of you.
Water energy is counterbalanced by Fire energy; cool, scientific thinking and passionate, bright outreach each have their place.
- Got too little Water energy and you can’t think coolly? Chances are you’ve got too much Fire, too much passion and energy.
- Got too much Water energy and you come across as a calculating supervillain? Chances are you’re deficient in Fire, not enough connection to others.
A deficiency in one allows another to become overabundant. Think about your own personal strengths! What are the counterbalancing attributes to your personal strengths, the things that help balance you out?

Being outgoing is counterbalanced by being introverted, and there is a time and place for each. Being greedy for money even has its place as long as it’s balanced by altruism, just as altruism must have at least some level of counterbalancing greed so that you can be productive, generate resources, and ultimately be able to help the causes you so fervently believe in. Being chaste and being lustful counterbalance each other and there is a time and place for each as well.

If you find yourself out of balance, look to what the opposing energy is, and use that as a mental prompt to ask yourself tough questions. “Why do people walk all over me? Perhaps I need to be a little bit less giving, even if that’s part of my nature” is a tough conversation you might need to have with yourself.

The key lesson that the archetypes and our personal strengths teach us is that these attributes and energies are neither good nor bad. No attribute is absolutely positive or negative. Everything is relative. Everything has a time and a place that is appropriate, an amount that is in balance and out of balance in either direction, and is devoid of its own values. When you think about yourself and what you need to work on for your personal growth, resist the temptation to label parts of you as good or bad and instead ask, “Am I using this attribute in the appropriate place and time to benefit myself and the world around me most?” In that way, you’ll develop a healthier self-image and see how even perceived negative attributes can be made to serve you.

Author’s note: this post was originally written in 2014 and has been updated. The most recent revisions made it substantially more readable.

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July 7, 2020
You Ask, I Answer: Mental Wellness, Self-Care, and Marketing in a Pandemic?
Isaac asks, “How are you keeping your mental health afloat right now? With the covid news everywhere, its really hitting me hard. I deeply wish I could stop looking at social media right now, but its my job!”

Disclaimer: I am not a medical professional. Consult a qualified medical professional immediately, especially if you feel unsafe, such as considering self-harm.

I can only tell you what works for me. What I find helpful is staying informed from the most qualified sources. A lot of the regular news media tends to oversimplify, distort, or hype up news, taking accurate information out of context.

Other suggestions: schedule your time on social media rigorously with a timer, so you can fulfill your job requirements.

Use a management tool like Agorapulse (disclosure: partner) to interface with customers so you’re not on the networks themselves.

Set aside mental health breaks – you’re more than allowed to go outside and enjoy some sunshine.

Stay in touch with friends – use your network for support. You’re not alone in this – literally everyone is in the same place.

Find a form of meditation that works for you – everyone is different. Some people need to move, others need to sit, some need to sing, etc.

Finally, suspend your normal rules. This is a highly abnormal situation. As long as you’re obeying quarantine/distancing rules, do what’s fun for you. Bust out those guilty pleasures. Watch that series on Netflix.

You Ask, I Answer: Mental Wellness, Self-Care, and Marketing in a Pandemic?
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In today’s episode, Isaac asks, How are you keeping your mental health afloat right now with the Cova news everywhere it’s really hitting me hard.

I would deeply Wish I could stop looking at social media right now but it’s my job.

You’re not alone.

Full disclaimer first, I am in no way shape or form a qualified medical professional or mental health professional.

If you feel unsafe, please, you know, use the telemedicine option on your insurance or whatever.

please get in touch with a qualified medical professional or qualified mental health professional if you feel unsafe is priority number one is keeping yourself safe.

So that’s it.

I can only tell you what works for me.

What works for me is finding the most credible sources of information and following them.

What you see in the mainstream media is Typically oversimplified it is distorted.

It is a little snip out 10 second sound bites, in some new sources cases, just absolute outright lies.

There’s a lot of hype, and these publications need the eyeballs.

So a lot of accurate information gets taken out of context.

I like to go to rigorously qualified sources like New England Journal of Medicine journal, the American Medical Association, World Health Organization, the Lancet, all the medical publications that have a strong interest in sharing correct information, even if it’s technically dense, even if it’s not thrilling or exciting prose at this point, I don’t want exciting prose I just want to know, as close to accurate information as possible.

Same for following people on social media.

I follow epidemiologists infectious disease spec specialists virologists, anybody who has a qualified perspective and is doing good work and releasing data.

Those are the people I follow because I trust that they are working towards a solution.

They are working towards giving the public as accurate information as possible.

And in a lot of cases, they’re not the ones on news because they’re not media trained, and they’re not.

They’re not people who can communicate in five second sound bites, although some of these concepts take 10 minutes to explain, and that’s okay.

So I like that’s how I stay informed about this.

other suggestions for marketing purposes? Yes, you do have to do your job.

So schedule your time, particularly on social media right now.

Set a timer on your phone or something like that so that you can fulfill your job requirements and do what’s required, but not more than that.

If you don’t have one look at a tool like Agorapulse that’s a social media management tools, you know, social inbox.

That way you can interface with customers or Respond to inquiries, review things and stuff but you don’t have to be on the main network itself where you see your newsfeed I you know it’s on a project coronavirus.

Set aside, mental health breaks, you know you’re allowed to take a break, you’re allowed to go outside for a walk.

Enjoy some sunshine, sometimes the best disinfectant kills viruses like you wouldn’t believe.

Just stay away from other people.

You’re allowed to take a break from meditation, you’re allowed to, you’re working from home, probably.

So go find a quiet corner, wherever it is you live and you sing your favorite song.

But take those breaks as you need them.

Stay in touch with your friends, especially digitally, right? Because that’s where we all are, and use your network for support.

Literally, you’re not alone in this literally every single person is in the exact same situation.

So use your network, right use your connections, use these tools.

For relying on others fire up a video chat.

Now just have coffee with somebody to turn on video chat and you guys can sit down and talk, you just are not doing it in person, you can still see the person’s face and such.

Find a form of meditation that works for you.

A lot of people say meditation, but there are a lot of forms of meditation.

And there’s going to be forms that work for you in forms that don’t some people can are totally good with the, you know, the standard type of sitting meditation, Zen style, meditation, she Conway are sitting quietly breathing, focusing on your breath, other people that drives them up the wall, like they just can’t do it.

There are they’re sitting meditation, there’s moving meditations.

There’s, you know, singing, painting, whatever it is, it gets you in the zone of focusing on something other than the noise in your mind, right.

So you experiment around, figure out what works for you, whatever it is.

That gives you that feeling of I’m focused on one thing only.

And this is the thing, you know, painting, drawing, coloring books, whatever the case is, whatever works for you.

It’s going to take some experimentation, but hey, we got time, right? So find that actually will be a great outcome from this particular situation to be able to figure out what really does work best for you.

And finally, suspend your normal rules, right? This is a highly abnormal situation.

This is a once in a century situation.

As long as you’re obeying the rules that the authorities have set down for you, regarding social distancing and quarantine, do what’s fun for you, you know, have that extra bar chocolate, drink that bottle of wine, maybe not during work hours.

But give yourself the permission to to do stuff a little outside the box right now.

Because it is an unusual situation.

It is a challenging situation for many and You want to be able to give yourself some forgiveness, right? Give yourself some permission.

So keep that in mind.

Again, I’m not a qualified mental health practitioner.

If you feel unsafe, please dial up some help right away.

In case you feel unsafe.

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March 16, 2020
How Climate Destruction Brought Me Daily Clarity and Gratitude
We’re well past game over. We know it. From the destruction of large swaths of the Amazon to ever-accelerating carbon in the atmosphere, it’s game over for the human race. We had a decent run, and we all know who will be running the place long after we’re gone – our friends, the roaches, who can survive damn near anything. In the next two decades, everything will change, and probably not for the better.

And strangely, I’ve never been happier.

This has brought me a fantastic sense of peace and gratitude on a daily basis, a meditation on the joys of everyday life. One of the problems with many meditations is that you’re contemplating something abstract, like the universe, which is just too big to imagine. When you’re contemplating gratitude for the food you eat, it’s abstract.

When you add climate destruction, the abstract becomes concrete. That cup of coffee becomes all the more enjoyable, every day, because the coffee tree is being wiped out. The delicious tuna you’re dining on will become far less available. Even the bar of chocolate will become more scarce as the cacao trees are devastated from climate destruction. You become grateful for each meal, each day, because you know that within your lifetime, what’s on your plate may become unavailable. So you take joy in even the simple things, and you teach your kids to enjoy what they have, right now, because they won’t always have it.

When you sit in your backyard and watch the sunset, see the birds, listen to the bees around you, you know that each day is the last you’ll see of the climate like this. In a dozen years, you might not hear nearly as many birds. You might not see any bees at all. You’re grateful for them around you today.

When you cook dinner for your family, when your kids have enough to eat and their favorite foods, happiness is yours for the day. You know you’ll do what you can to provide for them and teach them to adapt to the changing world, but simple joys in the moment become all the more poignant.

And the best part is this: if you’re right about climate destruction, you will enjoy things before they vanish, remembering them with clarity. And if you’re wrong, and humanity does manage to pull through, then you lived your life enjoying each day as much as possible. Either way, you win.

Mindfulness is a lot easier when every aspect of your quality of life has an expiration date that will be within your natural lifetime.

Enjoy the day. Today is the last day you’ll have like this.

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August 27, 2019
How to Use Your Music To Find Your Inner Superheroes
In the martial arts, we spend a lot of time learning how to face and deal with difficult situations, dangerous enemies, and unpredictable challenges. However, the worst, most dangerous enemies we often face are ourselves.

We get in our own way.
We sabotage ourselves.
We make things more difficult than they have to be.
We fail to see the best in ourselves.

How do we protect ourselves from… us? In the martial art I practice, ninjutsu, we have a mental framework we use to describe four classes of responses in the basic self-protection curriculum, based on four archetypes, four primordial elements. There is…

… Earth energy. This is the energy of confidence, standing your ground, neither giving way or seizing gains. You protect as an immoveable barrier to whatever seeks to harm you.

… Water energy. This is the energy of distance and time, the scientist who can coolly and calmly assess a situation, unswayed, and then act accordingly.

… Fire energy. This is the energy of inspiration, creativity, and assertiveness, taking the fight to an attacker before they even get a chance to get going.

… Wind energy. This is the energy of compassion and benevolence, like how you’d handle an aggressively drunk loved one or relative, not harming, but subduing.

Historically, these four qualities have been used in ninjutsu as general maps and guides for effective responses to self protection situations. Sometimes we need to stand our ground, sometimes we need to strategically retreat, sometimes we need to take the fight to the opponent, and sometimes we need to shut things down without doing harm.

These archetypes can be extended to more than just physical confrontation. These methods help us fight our most negative impulses, our most counterproductive habits, our most self-sabotaging efforts. They’re models and frameworks for handling virtually any kind of daily situation in which we need the heroic qualities of confidence, calmness, creativity, or compassion.

Putting the Framework to Use

My teacher’s teacher, Stephen K. Hayes, often speaks on the topics of mantras and motivation. Mantras protect our minds from our lesser selves. Mantras are highly charged, highly powered, highly personal ways to instantly change our frame of mind. They have power in and of themselves; the sounds they make create impact whether or not we believe in them, whether or not we fully understand them. They are harmonic in nature.

What else fits this definition?

Our favorite music.

We each have our favorite music, favorite songs which change our thoughts, our moods, our energy instantly. When the first bars of one of our favorites begin to play, we change in an instant. We all have songs we remember from a particularly stirring victory, from an intimate relationship, from a warm memory growing up. But we often leave this power untapped, relying on coincidence and circumstance to trigger our moods, rather than make conscious choices about what’s playing next.

Start up the music player of your choice, be it old MP3 files on your computer, your Spotify/Pandora playlist manager, your Apple Music/Amazon Music/Google Play subscription, etc. I do recommend, if possible, using some paid music service which permits you unrestricted access to the back catalog so that songs from long ago are just as available as the latest hits.

Set up four playlists. Earth, Water, Fire, Wind. Each playlist will contain its own music. If you prefer a more literal listing, name them Confidence, Calmness, Creativity, and Compassion.

In the Earth playlist, comb through your own experiences, backgrounds, favorites, and preferred tunes from your present and past that emphasize the qualities of unshakeable confidence, mountain-like invincibility, command like a general, and complete lack of worry about whatever opposes you. What songs bring up a feeling of being unstoppable, immoveable, completely confident, of heroic figures like Superman or Wonder Woman that simply cannot be stopped by ordinary means? Add them to this playlist.

In the Water playlist, comb through your own experiences, backgrounds, favorites, and preferred tunes from your present and past that emphasize the qualities of ocean-like calm, late evening coolness, a sense of necessary detachment, emotional reboot, the comfort that comes from superior knowledge and experience. You’re the scientist or veteran who knows all the tricks, who can step away from a heated situation and bring insight. What songs invoke feeling like James Bond or Batgirl? Add them to this playlist.

In the Fire playlist, comb through your own experiences, backgrounds, favorites, and preferred tunes from your present and past that emphasize the qualities of amazing creativity, passionate inspiration, engagement, unstoppable momentum towards your goals, the kind of music that won’t let you sit still, that will kick you in the butt if your momentum flags. What songs invoke feeling like a passionate whirlwind, a creative force, or heroic figures like Bruce Lee or Beyonce? Add them to this playlist.

In the Wind playlist, comb through your own experiences, backgrounds, favorites, and preferred tunes from your present and past that emphasize the qualities of compassion, of an eager willingness to make a difference, to lend a hand, to reach out and touch the hearts and souls of the people you care about, to make the world a better place, qualities of kindness, love, and service. What songs invoke caring love, a desire to make the world a better place, or heroic figures like Mother Teresa or the Dalai Lama? Add them to this playlist.

When you’ve assembled your own personal Four Elements playlists, arrange them so they are easily found and frequently seen. Remind yourself of their presence. Maybe add an asterisk or a plus sign before their labels so they’re always at the top of an alphabetical listing on your device.

Always feel free to change or add songs on your Four Elements playlists, as memories stir, as you have more life experiences.

When To Use Your Four Elements Playlists

These playlists are best used when you need to invoke each of the heroic qualities in your life. When do we need confidence? When do we need compassion? They’re especially useful when we lack the feeling we know we need.

Perhaps we’re about to see an old friend and we need to be extra compassionate, but it’s been a tough day at work. Fire up our Wind element compassion playlist and set ourselves to what we know our friend needs.

Perhaps we’re about to walk into a meeting and we feel uncertain about something, we feel unprepared even though we know our stuff. Fire up our Earth element confidence playlist and channel our favorite unstoppable heroes.

Perhaps we’ve just spent an hour on social media reading demoralizing political news and commentary, and we need to inspire ourselves again. Fire up our Fire element creativity playlist and wash away the negative by immersing ourselves in the talent of the artists we love the most.

Over time, we’ll build the habit of invoking the appropriate heroic qualities of confidence, calmness, creativity, and compassion without our devices. Like any skill, we need to start with familiar ground, familiar territory, familiar sounds in order to strengthen our skills. Later on, we’ll be able to simply think of the song, think of our heroic figure, and trigger the same energy and emotion as listening to the playlist.

For now, start with your playlists and use your music to be the best version of yourself you can be.

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March 3, 2017
When you can’t find your heroes
There’s an old adage, that if you look around the poker table and you can’t spot the sucker, you’re it.

Let’s reframe that.

If you look around and you can’t find your heroes, you’re supposed to be the hero.

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November 11, 2016
The 5 song playlist for tough times
We live in challenging times. There are so many opportunities for us to make ourselves sick with worry, so many ways to fill our days, nights, and Facebook feeds with anguish. Some of the worry is vicarious, and some of it is incredibly personal and firsthand. All that anxiety takes a tremendous toll on ourselves, our minds, our hearts, our ability to do what must be done in our own lives to keep advancing.

To mitigate the effects of some of this very real psychological warfare that we wage against ourselves, there’s an ancient meditation practice we can draw upon, a method of mental self-protection, which I first learned from Stephen K. Hayes. Using the most modern tools, we can freshen it up for today’s world.

What you’ll need: headphones, a device capable of playing your favorite music, and about 15-20 minutes of uninterrupted time depending on the songs you like. No sitting on top of mountains needed, just a room where you won’t be interrupted, by other people or by yourself.

Using the music and software of your choice, you’re going to pick 5 songs you know well and assemble them into a playlist. The platform doesn’t matter, use whatever you like best, from iTunes to Spotify to Pandora, etc.

First Song: Reboot

For the first song in your playlist, pick a song that reboots you. The song should cause you to forget whatever it is you were doing, to stop and just listen. The song should command 100% of your attention.

Second Song: Action

The second song in your playlist should inspire you to take correct actions, to move in the world in the most positive, most productive way. Maybe it’s a favorite workout song that gets you pumped up. Maybe it’s an inspiring song that makes you get up and want to join a cause.

Third Song: Word

The third song in your playlist should inspire you to choose correct words, words that heal and help, rather than harm. What songs inspire you to be more poetic, to speak better, to choose words? You could pick a love song, perhaps, or a song that has helped you say the right things during tough times and tough relationships.

Fourth Song: Thought

Your fourth song should inspire you to think more clearly. What music helps you to reflect, to reason, to take some time to have a conversation with yourself? What song makes you contemplate or dive deep inside to understand what you’re thinking? What song forces you to pause, close the door, and think?

Fifth Song: Armor

The final song in your playlist should be your armor. This is the song that makes you stand up tall, feel like you’re invincible, powered up, ready to take on the world. This is the song that, when you hear it, makes you feel like the arrows being fired at you simply bounce off, like a superhero. You brighten up, you almost literally shine.

You’ll note that I have assiduously avoided any mention of the songs on my personal playlists. These songs are deeply personal to you, and only to you. Take the time to root through your music catalog to find the perfect fits for yourself, rather than emulate what someone else uses. Like a favorite recipe, what you love most will work best for you and you alone. Change out songs as you need to, as you find better songs that fit each role more perfectly.

Use this to armor up, to protect yourself against an increasingly hostile, depleting world.

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November 18, 2015
Become a better speaker by setting correct motivation
I was having dinner the other night with one of my coworkers, and we were discussing a talk I had delivered at a recent conference. During the course of the conversation, I related one of the biggest breakthroughs I had as a speaker that totally changed public speaking for me.

In the beginning of my public speaking career, I was up on stage mainly to promote either the business I was working for or my own personal brand, and while the talks I gave were substantive enough, they were neither inspirational nor terribly educational. I also struggled with things like imposter syndrome and even stage fright.

What changed the game for me was a seminar I took in 2007 with my meditation teacher, Stephen K. Hayes, on setting motivation. During this training, we envisioned ourselves as these heroic archetypes whose very words touched the people around us and healed suffering, made the world a better place. From that training, I took the lesson that my motivations for being on stage were not what they could be. If I changed from a perspective of “the audience is here to serve me” to the perspective of “I am here to serve the audience”, then my motivations would set my energy and enthusiasm.

With the right motivations, the right energy, and the right enthusiasm, I now speak confidently and happily on stage, knowing that I am there for the right reasons. I am there to be helpful, to do my best to encourage, inspire, and help make everyone who sits in the crowd in any given talk a little bit better at their professions. I am there to do my part to help the world become a better place, and that perspective is incredibly energizing, exciting, and inspiring, which makes me a better speaker.

Call it karma, balance, or common sense, but my talks now achieve what I had originally set out to do as well: help grow the businesses I work for and my own personal brand, but by focusing on how I can help you, not how you can help me.

Om padma udbhavaya svaha! Every word helps the world become a better place if our motivations are correct!

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October 21, 2013
Where Marketing’s Next Best Ideas Will Come From
In just a few weeks, on October 16, I’ll be helping to kick off the first day of the FutureM Conference here in Boston. My session, ambitiously titled “Where Marketing’s Next Best Ideas Will Come From“, will be more of a workshop than just a straight-up slideshow. We’ll play a little World of Warcraft, we’ll talk some 16th century ninja martial arts, we’ll discuss some cooking, toss in a dash of Buddhist-inspired thinking, and look at how all of this blends together to make a potent creative stew.

To give you a taste of what the session will be about, take a moment to think about a favorite recipe that you prepare. It could be anything from a simple pasta and sauce dish to something as elaborate as Eggs Benedict with real, made from scratch Hollandaise sauce. Got the recipe in mind?

Good. Next, think of a couple of times when that recipe broke down. What went wrong? For example, maybe you let the pasta get too waterlogged. Maybe the Hollandaise cooled down and congealed. Maybe the fish for the seared tuna wasn’t as fresh. What went wrong?

Make a list of the things that have gone wrong in the preparation of that recipe. Now start to group them together. Timing issues dominate cooking – waiting too long or not long enough. Order issues dominate cooking – doing things in the wrong order or trying to cut corners and blend steps together that must remain discrete. Got your “fails” all ordered and grouped up?

Which group of failures happens more often than not? How much would your cooking improve if you could solve for that particular failure category? Is there a gadget, perhaps, that could fix that class of failure? Is there a method or a technique that could fix or prevent that class of failure? Does it exist? If it doesn’t exist, how easy would it be to create something to fix that failure?

Fixing your greatest failures is one of the proven methods for innovation, whether it’s cooking or marketing. Find a failure that you see frequently and fix the root of it, fix it in such a way that it knocks out the biggest portion of mistakes you make. That innovation will in turn improve everything else you do, from scheduling social media postings to cooking breakfast to inventing the next big thing.

My session is not going to be me telling you what’s next. My session is going to try to help you discover your own next best ideas. I hope to see you there.

Disclosure: FutureM is a client of my employer, SHIFT Communications. I did not receive any direct compensation from FutureM for this post or the promotion around it, but obviously if SHIFT gets new business from people who attend my session, I receive an indirect financial benefit.

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September 20, 2013

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