Christopher S. Penn – Marketing AI Keynote Speaker

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The Hidden Lairs of Your Most Passionate Customers
The following is a guest post from the inimitable Jay Baer.

The best opportunity to grow your business with customer service is to engage with your “onstage haters,” or customers who complain in public forums. And the best opportunity to engage with your onstage haters isn’t in social media (yet).

More than half of onstage complaints appear on review sites

Today, more than half of all onstage complaints occur not on Twitter and Facebook, or in forums, but rather on review sites like Yelp, TripAdvisor, and Amazon.

The increase in customer advocacy that results from answering a customer complaint is greater on discussion boards than anywhere else. That may be because so few companies choose to engage in these channels.

Engage your onstage haters

Patrick O’Keefe is a discussion board expert and the author of Managing Online Communities. He believes all companies should be monitoring and participating in relevant forums. “I really encourage brands to participate in forums because it’s where the most passionate customers hang out . . . It’s so powerful to go into forums and answer questions because becoming a part of the community helps the members of that community see you in a more favorable light. If the company is participating in the forum, and they offer a service and you eventually want that service, the company is going to be top of mind.”

He acknowledges that many businesses choose to not answer questions and complaints in forums because they can be niche and insular. Success can also be more difficult to measure, compared to other venues for customer interaction.

“Why I think a lot of companies are reluctant to participate is because it’s harder to track,” he says. “You don’t own that community. You don’t have access to the database. You don’t have even the surface level analytics from Facebook that they provide you with. You don’t really have a lot of information about direct results from within the forum. You can look at thread view counts (how many times the topic has been viewed on the forum) and you can look at how many people visited your website from the forum, but that’s about it.”

O’Keefe also reinforces that, like in all onstage venues, the audience on discussion boards and forums isn’t just the customer providing feedback, but potentially all members of that online community. “I always tell people, when you respond in a forum, don’t respond to the person who posted, respond to everyone who will ever read that conversation.”

Your answers are recorded for perpetuity

And that conversation could be read much, much later. Many online communities last for a long time, and they typically have high rankings in Google and other search engines, due to their topical authority and specificity. So if someone searches for your business name or the name of one of your products, a question asked three years ago in a forum might appear on the first page of search results. Isn’t that a question you’d want to have answered?

Forums are often detailed repositories of information. As a result, they are most likely to be consulted when people are ready to make a purchase (and thus are using very specific search queries), or have already purchased (and have very specific questions about the product or service).

Because of the nearly infinite digital shelf-life of forums, the value of replying may persist indefinitely, but O’Keefe still recommends responding quickly, ideally within one week, with 24 to 48-hour response times a worthy objective.

Target a 24-48 hour response time

Since discussion boards and forums are often true communities, with a core cadre of members participating with consistency, it is ideal if you can have the same person within your business—maybe even yourself— engage in a particular forum every time. This builds recognition and trust that can boost advocacy, and benefit of the doubt as well.

Esteban Kolsky is a social business strategist whose company, ThinkJar, works with many large companies on their social media customer care initiatives. He says that in the best forum programs, the participating team members become indispensable members of the community at-large, due to their knowledge and accessibility.

“You need to put people in these forums who can answer the questions, your subject matter experts. You can build communities around those people, and have them solve as many customer problems as possible, in real-time,” Kolsky said.

Ted Sindzinski from SVS agrees: “Our forum participants are not people we hired off of the street. They are people that are product experts. My marketing team is pretty sophisticated, but we don’t make or support the product day-to-day. It’s easier to train somebody how forums work, than it is to teach somebody everything about a product. I can’t learn 20 years of audio experience as fast as someone could learn to post on social network or online community.”

He says that forums aren’t just part of the SVS customer service playbook, but integral to the business itself: “At SVS, forums and participating in them are core to the company’s history. It’s literally how the company grew, when it was a small initial startup. It was seeding product awareness in forums. It has always been part of the company’s DNA, and even though many companies still don’t participate in forums, for us, it’s just a given. For every person who posts a question in a forum, you have five or ten or 20 more who find us. It’s hard to find an exact number, but we get indicators all the time of how important the forums are to SVS.”

1,200 photos daily on plastic surgery discussion board

Discussion boards and forums aren’t just for consumer products, either. In just about every industry and locale, there is an online community for a dedicated group of professionals, hobbyists, or potential customers looking to connect. In the United States, massive numbers of healthcare decisions are made—at least in part—by patients reading and participating in forums. There is a dedicated forum for nearly every disease, condition, malady and remedy in existence. There’s even a very large discussion board for plastic surgery. It’s called RealSelf.

Every day on RealSelf, members post more than 1,200 photos, either of themselves or of body parts they wish to emulate. And to-date, the platform has accumulated more than one million comments and answers from plastic surgeons.

Tom Seery is the founder of RealSelf, and explains its success this way, “These procedures are highly unfamiliar purchases. It can be very awkward. So our focus is on helping a physician become more relatable and relevant to the consumer who is looking for a physician that they can feel personally connected to, before making a decision. We help that doctor answer consumers’ questions, which allows them to demonstrate their expertise. And the doctor is able to also express their personality and showcase that their interests aren’t just in making another credit card swipe of their patient, but that they also do actually want to help people make better decisions. We also provide a platform for patients to share their experiences. ‘Was your tummy tuck worth it or not?’ And as you dig into the site you can see people are not just writing reviews, they’re really sharing journeys and telling stories.”

Patients review physicians and specific procedures on RealSelf as well. Due to medical privacy regulations, most physicians do not answer reviews specifically in classic Hug Your Haters fashion, but instead participate indirectly by answering questions and providing assistance in the forums.

Discussion boards and forums are also important in the business-to-business (B2B) economy. One of the largest of these is Spiceworks, a comprehensive online community for technology professionals that bills itself as “Where IT goes to work.”

Discussion boards for B2B

When business-to-business (B2B) technology companies want to participate in the Spiceworks community, they nominate individual team members to do so. Spiceworks provides training materials on the best ways to interact with IT end-users on the platform, and each participant receives points and recognition based on their contributions.

Once that participant reaches a threshold that indicates he or she is a trusted member of the Spiceworks community, they are given the label of Green Guy or Green Gal, marking them as official representatives of their company on the platform.

Give it a personal touch.

This personal touch matters, according to Spiceworks’ Executive Director of Marketing Communication, Jen Slaski: “The more companies can make customers feel heard, the more they can explain something, the more people can see you’re taking feedback and you’re trying to make a difference, that goes a long way.” She says that customer complaints change, and their overall ire diminishes when they realize they are talking to a real person; a representative of the company instead of “the company” as a faceless entity.

A model to consider: Priscilla @ HP

Priscilla Jones is one of the faces of Hewlett-Packard on Spiceworks. Her official title is HP Social Media Ambassador, and she represents the massive company in a large and important online venue. It’s a busy job. As of September 2015, she has written 1,935 posts on Spiceworks, and her contributions have been named “best answers” 118 times. She’s also authored 102 replies tagged as “helpful posts” by the Spiceworks community. Priscilla is also a member of 64 groups within the platform, including the “virtualization” group, the “Oakland, California” group, the “motorcycle” group, and the “women in IT” group.

One of her “best answers” on Spiceworks, and a good example of the potential impact of participating in forums occurred when she answered a question about a HP printer from “ChrisJG” in May 2015.

He wrote

“Hi All, I have a P4515X printer that shows that it is a P4014n printer on the configuration page printout.

It’s never been used outside of trying to set it up and test. The person before I took over said he was having issues with the networking part of the printer, but he left this position before resolving the issue. I’ve updated the firmware to the latest, 04.221.6, on the HP website, but that didn’t resolve anything (not that I really thought it would). I’ve tried resetting the printer to factory settings, and working with PJL files, but I can never get them to update identity of the printer. I’ve read that in situations like this, you need a “multibyte file” from HP Support, but since this printer is no longer under warranty, I’m not sure I would be able to get a file. I would really appreciate any suggestions as I am completely stumped at this point. Thanks!”

Priscilla replied one hour and 16 minutes later, including links to specific resources:

“@ChrisjG, you may have noticed in your research of your issue that replacing parts, especially the formatter, can cause a printer to have “an identity issue.” You may have also noticed this post in which @dicka confirms that the “multibyte file” has to be obtained from Tech Support and @dicka gives very detailed instructions on how to use the file. Click here. You will observe in this post that @dicka gives the names of staff to whom to send the information for the file. Click here. If this is old information, please call Tech Support at 800 334-5144 to request the file. If you encounter problems please ping me. I see that this is your first post. Welcome to Spiceworks!”

Chris responded:

“Thanks for the info Priscilla. I did come across those linked posts and was able to create and send the PJL file to the printer to update the serial number and model number, but the problem still remains. I’ll ping Tech Support Monday morning to see if they can assist. Will I still be able to get a file even though the printer is no longer under warranty? Thanks!”

Priscilla answered:

“Hello ChrisJG, Thanks very much for the update. I felt that perhaps you had already seen those posts. Let me ping you regarding your Tech Support call.” (Note that after this message, Priscilla contacted Chris in private, using the messaging function of Spiceworks)

Chris then replied:

“Thanks for all your help Priscilla. HP support came through with the multibyte file. My printer has been cured. Thanks!”

And Priscilla wrapped it up beautifully:

“Hello Chris, thanks very much for the positive update. Wonderful news! Your update has made my afternoon. Please let me know whenever your products need ‘curing.’ Enjoy the holiday break.”

It’s not difficult to provide great support in the hidden lairs of your most passionate customers. But you do need to devote knowledgeable people to it, and give them the opportunity to make themselves human and approachable.

Drawn from Hug Your Haters: How to Embrace Complaints and Keep Your Customers, about which Guy Kawasaki says: “This is a landmark book in the history of customer service.” Written by Jay Baer, Hug Your Haters is the first customer service and customer experience book written for the modern, mobile era and is based on proprietary research and more than 70 exclusive interviews.

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February 29, 2016
Guest Post: You Choose the Path, by CC Chapman
Today’s post is brought to you by C.C. Chapman, author of Amazing Things Will Happen.

I love the outdoors and am always happiest when I’m hiking along a trail towards the summit of a mountain.

This must be why there are so many metaphors and analogies that have an outdoors slant in my new book Amazing Things Will Happen.

Today, I want to talk about one of the most important ones and that is the concept of You Choosing The Path.

You Choose the Path – A Lesson from Amazing Things Will Happen
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It doesn’t matter if you are trying to change something in your life or career, the truth is that there are always multiple paths to your end destination. Some are longer, harder or crazier than others, but since you are doing the traveling the choice is up to you.

Far too many people look to others to make the choice for them or point them in the right direction. While friends, family and mentors will all be willing to share their opinions and answer your questions they can not make the decision for you.

There is nothing to say that you can’t decide to do some bushwhacking and blaze your own trail, but that takes a lot of confidence on your part and being willing to accept the extra risk that comes with it.

Looking to the new year ahead, take some time to think about the major goals you want to accomplish. Then write them down and list out all the tasks, no matter how small, that it’ll take you to reach each of them. The more detailed you are, the more likely you are to start being able to see the different paths that will get you to each goal.

Never forget that every journey begins with a single step, so it is time to move beyond only thinking about doing it and get going! Choose your path and amazing things will happen!

Be sure to pick up a copy of Amazing Things Will Happen on Amazon or the dead tree purveyor of your choice.

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November 29, 2012
What’s Obvious to You?
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When C.C. Chapman and I were writing our book Content Rules, I kept asking him, “Does this have any value?” “Isn’t this stuff that everyone already knows?” And ultimately, “Isn’t this obvious?”

Well guess what? It wasn’t obvious. And thousands of book sales and tons of positive reviews later, I finally grok that.

Derek Sivers, the founder of CD Baby, calls this “Obvious to You. Amazing to Others.” In a video he released the other day, based on an earlier blog post, he says, “Any creator of anything knows this feeling: You experience someone else’s innovative work. It’s beautiful, brilliant, breath-taking. You’re stunned…..

“Afterwards, you think, ‘My ideas are so obvious. I’ll never be as inventive as that.’”

But in his own work, Sivers discovered something surprisingly profound, he says, “Everybody’s ideas seem obvious to them.” Great musicians or artists struggle with this too. But the key is to rememeber one thing: What’s obvious to you is amazing to someone else.

Why is it that we are terrible judges of our own creative value? It’s because we stand too close to our own selves. It’s impossible to maintain any perspective; our purview is inherently limited.

I see this all the time when I talk to companies about the content they are producing as part of their business: They think that their blog post ideas are silly, or ridiculous, or so painfully obvious that it’s not worth talking about, because their customers already know whatever it is that they consider sharing. (Hint: No, they don’t.)

That lack of perspective limits companies in other ways, too, when they rely on insider-y language, corporate-ese or “Frankenspeak” (as we call it in Content Rules) to get their messages across. They forget that the language they use inside their industries or companies isn’t the most effective language with which to communicate with customers. Again, they’re standing too close.

So what about you: Are you holding back something that seems too obvious to share? How do you try to gain perspective on your own work?

Hat tip to C.C. for the video.

Ann Handley is the Chief Content Officer of MarketingProfs and the co-author of Content Rules. People seem to like her writing. She’s a huge deal on Twitter, a point which might make her family proud, if only they knew what that meant.
April 26, 2011
With Great Challenge Comes Great Adaptability
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“Intelligence is the ability to adapt to change. ” – Stephen Hawking

Most of my life I’ve faced one challenge or another. Nothing special, plenty of people have faced darker roads. A host of them came from making bad choices in the midst of the challenges I faced which lead me not so elegantly to another bad situation. As a result of each challenges, I learned to adapt quickly and you can too.

Whether you need to adapt because of the decisions you’ve made or because of the decisions someone else made or a situation that nature caused, the first lesson to learn is that change is inevitable. There is no way to avoid change and the chaos that comes with it. Don’t try sticking your head in the sand. It doesn’t work.

You want to quit your job and do something that makes you happy. But you live in fear. You’re tired of what you’ve been doing the past decade and want to try something new. But you stall on taking the steps to make it happen. A competitor came up with that innovative new idea faster than you. But you dismiss the concerns of your smartest employees pointing out the signs until it’s too late.

Instead of ignoring what’s happening or running around in a panic-induced purple haze with flying invisible pink monkeys, here are three ways you become more adaptable so such things don’t throw you entirely off your game.
- Just make the f—king choice already. There’s only so much you can debate before you can do before making a choice. Yes, give yourself time to enter the witness state, but then choose a path.
- Don’t waste time asking “Why?”. Does it really matter? What happened, happened. It’s what you do next that shapes the future.
- Do not underestimate kind, loyal, and punch-you-in-the-face-with-the-truth friends to keep you straight. They’ll keep you from making foolhardy decisions out of snap judgement.
Don’t make the excuse that you can’t handle what’s happening. All of the life challenges you’ve experienced up until this moment have conditioned you to be able to handle whatever may come with more grace than you think is possible.

Don’t make the mistake of fighting with reality. The faster you accept whatever change has happened, the more quickly you can adapt.

Lastly, adaptability also requires an understanding of parts at a granular level. If you understand all the parts, you can rearrange them much faster and achieve a better outcome in the end.

Even though developing adaptability takes much strength, courage and fearlessness, paradoxically, the more adaptable we are, the stronger, more courageous and fearless we will become. And when we learn to adapt we gain the ability to face anything, a superhero’s strength that will allow us to fight off the real villains when they come calling.

Michelle (Chel) Wolverton is a productivity hacker, social marketing strategist, WordPress dev, and geeky accomplice to several individuals and businesses as the owner of Chel Consulting. She deals with the yearly insanity of being lead organizer for Podcamp Boston, an unconference that strives to teach those new to podcasting and social media. She blogs over on chelpixie.com at random and often shares her snarkiness on Twitter as @chelpixie.
April 25, 2011
4 Steps To Awaken Your Superhero Power
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You are a superhero.

My bet is that you can’t leap buildings in a single bound. I have a feeling that you can’t fly. It’s unlikely that you can make yourself invisible. You may have 20/20 vision (or better), but chances are its not X-ray vision.

But, you are a superhero.

Comic book superheroes possess a some type of super-human strength or power, often used to protect and/or “save the day.” (at least the good ones do). Real life superheroes have a unique power or strength that drives them to happiness and/or success. I guarantee there is something you know, something you do, a skill you have that is incredible. Something that is awesome. Something that makes you rise to the top, stand above the rest.

The challenge, of course, is to awaken your superhero power.

4 Steps To Awaken Your Superhero Power

Below are 4 suggested steps to awaken the superhero that lives within you.

1. Determine what drives you.

Take out a piece of paper and a pen (or the online equivalent). Write down the 10 things that you could not live without. These can be material (i.e., iPhone) and/or intangible (i.e., your family).

***It is important that you do not read ahead. I know it’s tempting, but write down that list of 10 before continuing.***

Ok. Now, take that list and eliminate half of it. What remains are the 5 things you can not live without.

Now, the hardest part: Remove 2 more. If you’ve followed the directions, you’ll have a list of 3 things/people you can’t live without. Look at this list. Study it. These 3 things are the most important things in your life. They are what drive you. My bet is there is a person (family, friend, significant other, etc) on that list. Be sure that whatever you do in life, the things &/or people on this list play a critical role.

2. Uncover, then play to your strengths.

The first part of this is a ~~blog post eBook~~ novel in and of itself. However, once you’ve determined what you are good at, focus on it. Craft your skill. Work on improving it. Don’t waste your time on stuff you are not good at. To be clear, I’m not suggesting that you don’t try to learn new things; I’m saying that your time may be better spent going good to great instead of crappy to better than crappy. Make sense? With the incredible amount of information that is available today and the ease at which one can access it, it can be very easy – even tempting – to try and learn everything. Trust me. I struggle with this too. However, once you’ve figured out what’s important to you (see #1) and what you’re good at, work on becoming the best you can be.

3. Someone will always be smarter than you.

If you are competitive – with others and yourself – and a perfectionist, this one is tough to swallow. I’ve been thinking, eating, breathing, and sometimes sleeping email marketing for nearly 6 years. I think I know quite a bit; however, there are tons of email folks out there who are way smarter than me; others who are better writers, better speakers, better with clients, etc. We are all always learning, but will never 100% perfect our strengths (#3). Someone will always be better. Accept it. Move on.

Also, “smart” is relative. My wife is an Ob/Gyn. She knows a ton about medicine; a ton about women’s health, pregnancy, babies, etc. She is way smarter than me when it comes to this stuff. Is she the smartest Ob/Gyn on the planet? Unlikely. It’s all relative.

4. Have fun.
Let’s face it. Not everyone loves their job. Some of us have things going on in our personal lives that would not fall into the “fun” category. We all have days (weeks?) that suck – both at work and at home. But if you are not having fun, why bother? It may be time to stop and figure out what is missing in your life – in your control – that is preventing you from enjoying it. Life’s too short. Are you really having fun? (Note: There is a video in that blog post showing my wife & I in a wedding “Baby Got Back” dance off. Only watch if you want to smile).

DJ Waldow is a knowledge craver, a sponge, and a lover of beer, coffee & people (in no particular order). He is the Director of Community @BlueSkyFactory. and lives in Salt Lake City with his wife (K-Dawg) and 1 year old (@babywaldow). DJ is not only a U of Michigan, alum, but also a raving fan. He blogs on Social Butterfly Guy.
April 22, 2011
The power of realization or Superheros are where you find them
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When I saw human resources’ number come up on my phone display, I knew I’d gotten it, too. After the brief and awkward meeting and requisite paper signing, I headed back to my office, packed up my stuff and took one last look out the 38^th floor window at a deserted Burnham Harbor. It was a good run, I thought. Great people. Visible position. Nice paycheck, good benefits. I’ll miss this view. Who will adopt my orchids? I’ll miss this office chair. Then – choking back tears – What now?

I sought refuge at my then boyfriend’s rustic West Loop loft, assuaging my sorrows with old movies, bologna sandwiches (a symbol of my new pauperism) and a fair number of tears, while my beau, Tom, worked away in the other room.

While Tom (not his real name), a musician, had been employed by others on and off over the years, he made his main living by hustling clients for a half dozen different concerns ranging from website development to graphic design to sound engineering, seasoned with a smattering of paying music gigs.

Tom was not particularly organized or ambitious, but he usually managed to keep enough dough rolling in to keep the lights on and food in the refrigerator. Sometimes just barely. And sometimes the lights got turned off. Inconvenient and uncomfortable? Yes. But somehow, he lived.

While ruminating on my situation during the movie marathon, I realized something. Not only did Tom always seem to always figure out a way make things work, by my definition at least, he also was free. As were many of my other creative, self-employed friends. They all were in control of their own destiny. Looking back, I’m pretty sure that’s not how they saw it, but at the time that’s what I perceived. And I realized I wanted that. I wanted to be free and in control. More than anything.

I half-heartedly scanned ads looking to replace or maybe even upgrade my lost gig. A small severance provided some financial cushion, but my pride had hit the floor, hard. And the recent awareness of my deep desire to be free and in control made the idea of going back to work for someone else pretty repulsive. I was screwed.

Classic movie number 37 playing in the background and my ego still smarting, I thought again about Tom and company. I was 100 times more organized and ambitious than almost all of them. Then this thought: “Hmmh. You know, if they can make it on their own, I bet I can, too.”

Holy eureka-beam-of-light-streaming-through-the-clouds-angels-singing moment. I bet I can, too.

I shifted my focus from looking for a job to spinning up skills I’d honed at the agency as a business offering. The result was my first business, Lenalinks, which provided tech writing and project management for some big corporate clients. It was lucrative work but unfortunately it also was (to me) excruciatingly boring, which is what led me back to the marketing industry. But that’s another story, titled something like, “Why an arguably sane person would close a perfectly profitable business, take a 60 percent pay cut and agree to go captive again to hone another craft.” But I digress.

Actually, the thought – I can, too – was not as important as what came immediate after it, which was the realization. Dictionary definition: An act of becoming fully aware of something as a fact. Also known as an “Ah-ha!”

Realizations differ from understanding. You can totally understand something intellectually, but still not really understand viscerally the truth of it – what “it” means. To me, “I can, too” meant that there was a completely new set of choices available to me. Bear in mind, nothing in my external world had changed. The realization caused my perception of what was available to me in the external world to change. Same world, yet different world. (Hello, M.C. Escher.)

Often, one realization sets off a chain reaction that leads to a series of realizations. For instance, the realization that I wanted to be in charge of my own destiny freed my mind to reshuffle my worldview and deliver the realization that it was completely within my power to make it so.

Realizations can seem to occur completely randomly, but there are ways to condition yourself to have them more reliably. Here are three:
1. Make being present a priority. Awareness cannot exist in the past or future. Unless you become aware that you’re thinking about the past or future, in which case, you’re actually back in the present. (M.C. Escher reprise.) Some ways to practice being present and strengthen awareness are meditation, yoga and martial arts. The objective of all these disciplines is to get you back in your body, to bring you back to now because now is where all the power is.
2. Be open to changing your mind. Because I was open to believing something new, or in this case, at least not opposed to the idea of having my own business, my subconscious was free to serve up the realizations I needed to move forward.
3. Demand insight from discomfort. Being present can be uncomfortable, especially if you’re in a tight spot. It’s natural to want kill the pain. But if you always give into the impulse to drown your sorrows, you may be missing an opportunity to experience a big shift. If instead you can manage to stay present and stare down pain such as fear, embarrassment or grief, you usually will be rewarded with insight. In fact, you should demand that it be so. Said writer, lecturer and mythologist Joseph Campbell, “The cave you fear to enter holds the treasure you seek.”
The point of this story is (actually, there are three): 1. Sometimes SuperHeros are unwitting, and thus, are where you find them. Don’t be snobbish about who delivers the catalyst message or models a new paradigm. 2. A single shift in your internal world can change your perception of the available choices even if nothing in your external world has changed. Be open to new thoughts. 3. Rather than waiting around for realizations, create the conditions that will allow your mind to more easily present you with them. A hidden pathway to your bold new future may be revealed.

Helena Bouchez is a writer, artist, connector and alchemist who makes a living as a purveyor of public relations and communications for marketing and marketing technology firms. To connect with Helena, follow her on Twitter @helenabouchez or email her at helena at helenabouchez dot com.
April 21, 2011
Making the Jump
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I’ll admit to some bias where Chris Penn is concerned. He and I share a similar purpose in life, I think, even though we approach it from two totally different directions.

I’ve always believed in the superhero idea, and this idea of Chris’s rings particularly true: we have superhero powers, but we don’t necessary have superhero awareness.

Which brings me to ask this question: What makes a superhero?

And my answer: The belief you already are one.

We so often keep our eyes focused on what’s next, on where we want to be. On who we wish we were, or on what we wish we were doing. But the path between here and there has to built, and it has to built on something.

That something is you.

My friend Matt Ridings talks about change in terms of building a bridge. Between where you are and where you’re going is the path, the bridge, to get from here to there. But what a lot of us forget is that to build a bridge, you need solid ground on both sides: not only do we need to have at least a directional idea of where we want to go (the other side) and a clear idea of how to get there (the bridge itself), we also need solid ground to build on — right now.

We forget the importance of finding our current bedrock. Of knowing — and valuing — the person that we are, right now. It’s that appeciation, that valuation, that gives us the confidence, and the courage, to step out over the chasm and onto the bridge we’ve built.

To me, that’s what awakening your superhero is all about: it’s about understanding where your bedrock is, and what it’s made of. It’s about finding your footing where you are, so that you have a steady base from which to step.

Without that firm footing we’re literally leaping out at the unknown, with no purpose, and no purchase to our grip.

It’s counterintuitive, I know: since we want to change, doesn’t that mean, by definition, we dislike where we are now? Or, at least, doesn’t that mean there’s something about us, right now, that warrants change? After all, if we were happy where we are, change wouldn’t be necessary, right?

But change, real change (as any superhero-awakening is) requires enormous strength. And ignoring — or worse, degrading or denying — some part of yourself you consider unworthy, weakens your position right off the bat.

It’s like starting with half a you — because that is, in essence, what you’re doing. You’re trying to make a whole change with only part of you.

And that never works.

No, the answer lies in taking yourself, warts and all. Of being honest with yourself, about yourself. In finding how to turn your weaknesses into strengths (or at least in figuring out how the strengths you already have are well-suited to mitigating your faults), and in starting in a position of comfort — of confidence.

So how do you do that?

Find something you’re proud of. No, really. There’s something about you that you like. Or at least, don’t actively dislike. What is that? How can you build on it?

Find the Force to your Dark Side. Also really. For those of us used to beating ourselves up, sometimes it’s easier to start from the negative. I’m not suggesting you stay there, but for each of us, we often have the antidote to our particular brand of poison within ourselves. So figure out what you don’t like, and then look for the thing you already have that balances it out. It’s there. Trust me.

Find a cheerleader. Our internal tape loops get worn out after a while, and we need to hear an outside voice. Find someone who believes in you. Unflinchingly. But someone who can give you straight-up honest feedback — in a way that you’ll actually hear it.They’re the ones who can help set your course, but remind you, too, of how fun where you are right now can be.

Find your purpose. Yes, this one dives a little deeper, but: What are you here for? What ties all that you do together? What do you really care about? We all do better when we have something to work towards. What is that for you?

Find your beliefs and values. There’s where you want to go… and then there’s how you want to get there. So know, going in, what you hold dear. What’s most important to you? What assumptions guide your thoughts? What price are you willing to pay? And, perhaps most important what price is too high?

You can only make a leap by pushing off the ground you’re standing on, so you better know what that is.

It’s time to fly, superheroes.

So go on. Grab your cape (or not). And go.

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Tamsen Webster specializes in how to tell the right story to the right people at the right time. As the Senior Vice President for Executive Communications at Oratium, a messaging consultancy, Tamsen is responsible for helping brands and individuals tell their stories day-to-day to drive business results. Reach her at [email protected], and follow her on Twitter (@tamadear).
April 20, 2011
We All Have It In Us
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It is your fault. That is the simple and blunt answer that far to many of you will never embrace as the truth.

We want more. We crave better. We Lust after what we don’t have but someone near does. We are full of excuses and yet we fail to discover the answer.

I’ve known my whole life that I am cut from a different cloth. I seek out the road less traveled and rise every morning eager to attack the day head on.

I know this because a long time ago I realized that everything I ever wanted was out there for the taking. There are always obstacles, distractions and curves you never see coming. That is the comedy of life.

But, EACH of us has it within ourselves to have all we crave. The trick is turning off the little voice of doubt, the lizard brain that says we can not do it.

Sit down today and pick one goal. A tangible end that can only be reached or not without any gray maybe in it’s success.

Now determine what you will do today towards that goal. What will you spend the next week doing to get closer? Finally, in the next month will you reach it or have established new items to get you closer.

Write these down and find people that will nag, poke and push you to insure you are working towards them. Every time that voice of doubt creeps up in you reach out to one of them to squash it. Can’t reach them? Find a mirror and tell yourself.

We DO in fact have it inside each of us. Even the greatest of people doubt themselves. The best of us train, learn and master how to push beyond, bend the rules in our favor and achieve our dreams.

I am sick of all the doubt in the world because I know you have it in you. I know you can do whatever you desire with enough drive and hard work. Life will NEVER be easy, so stop your complaining, find your cape and soar to whatever sunset you crave.

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C.C. Chapman is an entrepreneur, speaker and author. His first book Content Rules was released last year and he is the Founder of DigitalDads.com, where a Dad can be a Guy. He writes, speaks and consults with companies of all sizes to empower them to do better with their marketing dollars.
April 19, 2011
Teaching The Pebbles
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When Mr. Penn approached me, as he had others, with the opportunity to create a guest post for him in his absence, I was initially and naturally quite honored. That feeling, however, turned like spring weather in the Midwest often does to a horrible feeling of dread. How could I, far from a professional or even remotely consistent blogger of letters, possibly hold a candle burning at both ends to the likes of Mr. Wall, Ms. Hoffman, Mr. Kownacki, or even Mr. Penn himself?

It took me a few days of fighting a Xanax-resistant strain of seizing panic to finally realize what he did here: not only was this an opportunity to fill space on Mr. Penn’s website while he racked up more frequent flyer miles than Clark Kent, it was a teaching moment directed squarely at me, and that’s a superpower we all possess.

Despite the reflexive reach for a gas mask that the term “life coach” compels out of me, we all possess some knowledge of some subject we can convey to someone else in the world. It could be a mechanical, philosophical, intellectual, or an artistic skill or talent, but the unrealized superpower in all of us is this: No matter the pursuit and how much you think you know or don’t know about it, there is always someone who knows less about that subject than you. These people are your target, your audience, and your unrealized opportunities.

It’s important to remember that whatever your subject or level of expertise, your students will almost never be blank slates. Like pebbles on a mountaintop, each student will behave differently in accordance with their natural gifts, needs, and their own unique imperfections. Some of these pebbles will stubbornly refuse to move, fighting the push of external force and the pull of gravity and in doing so deny themselves their own innate potential, accepting a destiny of forever remaining where they lie. Some will veer off too soon, impulsive and without direction, and tumble off the mountain, never to be heard from again. Some only seem to move when forcefully motivated by the boot of the teacher. Many will sadly slide down the smoothest path available, avoiding friction and resistance at every possible turn, safely landing at the goal of the bottom without so much as a scratch, but at the same time unnoticed and with little fanfare — they will have traded away their potential for an easy victory but are left with nothing to build on of their own.

The best students, however, will be the ones that show patience. They recognize their flaws and they wait — waiting to be shaped by the teacher’s tools — however limited those tools may seem — and allowing the experience and the environment to smooth away the imperfections. They’re the last pebbles to leave the mountaintop. Once these pebbles are ready and set down the path of the mountain, however, they become immense, awe-inspiring forces unto themselves that even the teacher dares not stand in the way of. They command a following of the very environment around them they once waited unassumingly in — water, ice, wind, boulders the size of cities — and transform it all into a crushing, unconquerable force of an avalanche that changes the landscape of the world.

What about the teacher, you ask? Of course the teacher is a pebble himself influenced by his own teacher until set free to become the foundation of his own mountain. Turn enough pebbles into unstoppable waves of energy, however, and you will be seen as the real definition of a superhero — something everyone will fear and respect for your ability as a kingmaker to unleash the power of the pebbles under your care.

My own pebble is the girl in the picture above, and my shaping tool is a camera. She’s ever the patient student and has taken well to learning my photographic philosophy of being part of the world she imagines inside the camera — as opposed to being simply on the world with a camera in hand. You can see the rounding of the corners and the smoothing of the jagged edges of this pebble with every new photograph she captures. Should it continue to be her pursuit, it will not be long before she is ready to be set upon a world that will never see her coming — and I will take great joy in watching the elements at her command rush past me and form something more amazing than I could ever imagine for myself.

It’s one of the many open secrets of the universe that we all possess this ability — most of us simply fail to realize it. We are content to be our own unassuming pebbles gliding down the easiest route possible on someone else’s mountain.

Your challenge and biggest reward as a teacher is to find these pebbles of opportunity on your own mountaintop and set them upon the unsuspecting world below, transforming them from a humble start into something unimaginatively powerful. These pebbles do not necessarily need to be children or relatives — we are surrounded by potential pebbles of all ages in nearly every interactive aspect of our daily lives.

Be a superhero: Find a pebble and teach it to become its own mountain.

Bryce Moore (@abiteofsanity) is an IT professional by day, a photographer by love, and one of Christopher Penn’s many pebbles by grace and choice. While trying to duck out of the way of boots thrown in the area of his cranium, he photoblogs daily and writes not nearly enough according to some people at abiteofsanity.com.
April 18, 2011
Stop Being the Green Lantern of Business
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In Chris’s flagship post about how we’ve all become modern superheroes at business, he points out how common some “super powers” (infinite knowledge, instant communication) have become. In a way, that means the barrier to entry for becoming a workplace superhero is getting dangerously low — and that opens the door for lame superheroes.

And you probably are one… but you don’t have to be.

Why I Would Kill for a Weakness to Kryptonite

Quick: what’s Aquaman’s weakness?

He needs to be in contact with water at least once a day.

But wait… don’t we all? That’s not a very “super” weakness, is it?
Sure, he can talk to fish, but he has to do it from the water cooler.
And that makes him about as “super” as your district manager.

But it could be worse.

Quick: what’s Green Lantern’s weakness?

Yellow.

That’s right: yellow. Green Lantern’s ring is powerless against a color *that also happens to be a component OF green.* (Go figure THAT one out…)

Meanwhile, what’s Superman’s weakness?

Kryptonite.

That’s right: aside from magic (which doesn’t really exist) and lead (which has felled better men than Clark Kent over the past century), Superman’s main weakness is being exposed to radioactive asteroid chunks of his exploded home planet.

And how many of THOSE do you think people find on the side of the road? Not many.

Which is why Superman is Superman, and why Aquaman is the guy the Justice League usually asks to wait by the phone while they handle the REAL emergencies.

What the Hell Does This Have to Do With YOUR Job?

Everything.

If we’re all superheroes, then we need GOOD super-weaknesses. We can’t be flummoxed by dehydration and primary colors. And yet, most gurus I know fail completely when it comes to simple skills like:

* time management
* financial planning
* customer service
* self-awareness
* spelling

If the power of the Internet gives each of us an honorary membership in the Justice League of Business, we owe it to the people we’re supposed to be helping (e.g., your clients or, if you’re a nonprofit, the whole of humanity) to not be rendered useless by basic tasks. We should be improving our basic skills AND our “super” powers at all times, so the services we provide truly ARE unparalleled. And we need to identify the bad habits and external pressures that are capable of derailing our workflow (and our careers) so we can work around them, learn to disable them, and eventually overcome them.

So… what’s YOUR Kryptonite?

(Are you sure it’s not just yellow?)

HINT: If there’s a flaw in your work approach that you just can’t fix, team up with someone who’s really good at the things you do horribly. As the Wonder Twins taught us all, there’s strength in numbers — especially when one of you can transform into a dinosaur. So work on that.

Justin Kownacki is a writer, videographer, brand strategist and media consultant. Since 2003, he’s created and produced the web sitcoms Something to Be Desired and The Baristas. He also tweets far, far too much. You can find Justin on the web here:
https://justinkownacki.com/
https://somethingtobedesired.com/
https://thebaristas.com/
https://twitter.com/justinkownacki
April 15, 2011

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